Anonymous #2 4w

No I mostly get called ugly fat, stupid whale rhinoceros elephant

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Anonymous purple_bowling34 4w

So in your 22 years of living .. no guy was EVER I mean EVER interested in you ?

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Anonymous #2 4w

You got it

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Anonymous purple_bowling34 4w

I’m sure you can get a bf, have you tried dating apps ? Or do you have social media

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Anonymous #2 4w

Haven’t tried dating apps only because of I’ve heard the horror stories and I’m just like absolutely not no thank you.

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Anonymous #4 4w

how will you know if someone is interested in you if you don’t seek them out too

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Anonymous purple_bowling34 4w

I don’t blame you , I wouldn’t try that route either.. but I’m sure there’s a guy who finds you attractive. I’m not saying ask them out but have you tried flirting ?

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Anonymous #4 4w

No because I am an absolute chicken when it comes to guys or trying to make a move on a guy I don’t even know how to flirt man

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Anonymous #2 4w

Smile , laugh, giggle

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Anonymous purple_bowling34 4w

Flirting isn’t hard. Giggle with them, tease them etc show them you’re interested

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Anonymous #2 4w

Okay!

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Anonymous purple_bowling34 4w

I can’t flirt to save my life ok lol don’t force yourself. Giggling and teasing do help but that’ll start to come naturally with the right person

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Anonymous #3 4w

You know these are all helpful and I appreciate it cause I have no goddamn idea plus my mother bless her heart love her dearly, but she is a helicopter mom who also kept me pretty sheltered

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Anonymous purple_bowling34 4w

I’m sorry you experienced that! But you will experience these things one day!

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Anonymous purple_bowling34 4w

Girl same lol so I am married now but I wouldn’t say I got a lot of attention until my 20s and even then by not so great guys. (Theres one in person ok) so it can be hard. Be picky girl❤️ you deserve to have high standards even though you want a man sooner rather than later

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Anonymous #3 4w

Oh yes, I’m very very picky. They have to be at least 6 foot or taller. Because I’m 5 foot 9 1/4 so I’m tall for a woman. So of course I want that aspect of it but also like I’m very very very picky when it comes to like certain things like I would love for them to open the door for me and just other things like that.

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Anonymous purple_bowling34 4w

Call me an old fashioned grandma, but I do think there are things men should do for you. You are a prize and you should have a man chase your heart

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Anonymous #3 4w

These are so helpful actually please keep them coming. This is very very interesting. I like having like big sisters if that makes sense because I don’t have that. I got stuck with a younger brother and you know how younger brothers are some of you out there lol

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Anonymous #2 4w

No I don’t even know how to flirt TBH. I really am such a chicken. It’s not even funny. Like I will literally avoid at all costs, but I am like full on stalker mode like from 30 feet away. I’m just like staring directly at him lol

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Anonymous purple_bowling34 4w

I have a younger sister 🤷🏼‍♀️ I’ve just lived some life and met some bad dudes. But I didn’t know it. I think I was blinded by the fact someone actually liked me cause all my friends had boyfriend all through their teens

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Anonymous purple_bowling34 4w

Girl I can’t flirt either and I dont try 😂

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Anonymous #3 4w

See and that’s exactly like what I’m scared of like I will be blinded by the fact that someone actually likes me

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Anonymous purple_bowling34 4w

My advice would be write down a list of what you want. Are you looking to settle down with this person someday, just a date, or whatever. Know what you want. And once you’ve met someone, make those things clear. Personally on the first date wirh my husband I said “I’m looking to get married if I’m dating, so go away if you don’t want that” lol

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Anonymous purple_bowling34 4w

yeah so i get all this but at some point you’ve got to get over yourself if you really want a relationship that badly. i used to be like that. yeah it can be scary, flirting is scary, but you need to put yourself out there. it’s a hard pill to swallow but necessary. not saying you have to go ask out a guy rn but at least try talking to/attempt flirting even on a small scale

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Anonymous #4 4w

avoiding it forever is only going to make it worse, and at some point you’re doing it to yourself

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Anonymous #4 4w

I definitely agree ! If she wants a relationship she has to show that she’s available but she described herself negatively. So she needs to build confidence in herself first and foremost!

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Anonymous #2 4w

Then once that confidence kicks in , she’ll put herself out there and trust she’ll have a relationship

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Anonymous #2 4w

exactly. patience is key

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Anonymous #2 4w

How do I get confidence? When all I see in the mirror is nothing.

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Anonymous purple_bowling34 4w

Positive self talk.

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Anonymous #2 4w

Do you makeup, spray on your best perfume, get your nails & hair done … you’ll feel better start from there

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Anonymous #2 4w

Workout, eat healthy & buy some new outfits! (Focus on being your best self.)

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Anonymous #2 4w

I don’t wear makeup that’s the thing but everything else I could definitely try

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Anonymous purple_bowling34 4w

If you don’t wear it fine ! But try other things , I was in this space about 3 months ago but I got out of it

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