You expect this one day to be your breath of air in a miserable life, and when it inevitably goes bad, you are sad. Very sad phenomenon in young women

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For me, I feel like I always put everyone else before myself and I never get any recognition for anything I do. So when my big day comes around, I always hope that I’ll finally feel appreciated and people will give me the love that I give them all the time. And when that doesn’t happen, it’s heartbreaking and I feel so unloved and unwanted. I also just always want it to be really fun and then it’s underwhelming and all my plans go sideways

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For me, the inevitable unstoppable passage of time and feeling like I haven’t accomplished enough for my age. Also having elevated expectations for the day and getting upset when it doesn’t turn out the way I hoped it would

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existentialism

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Idk sometimes it feel like disappointment. Birthdays feels like their supposed to be this big thing, but it feels like something is always missing, or someone couldn’t make it, or stuff went wrong

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I heard my bf and his friends saying something about “she looks horrible with that birthday makeup” like bye 🙁

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I'm sad to admit I think for me it's a bit of internalized sexism/ageism, where like my value as a woman "goes down with age" because so much of society reinforces this ☹️ I don't feel bad about aging myself but rather others' perceptions of me and my value, which is really sad but I'm aware about I guess.😔

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a lot of us feel unappreciated

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i actually bawled my eyes out on my 22nd. hoping my 23rd is better!!

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I cried when I turned 18. I thought I needed to have everything figured out and I didn’t feel ready. Turns out I was wrong

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My dad left on my birthday when I was young, which obviously is a pretty significant experience, sometimes there’s something there’s don’t know about yk

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I just feel forgotten even though I’m not. Forgotten, undeserving.

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So it’s not just me…

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I’ve cried on most of my birthdays

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I cried on my 22nd birthday bc I was sent away to a wilderness camp so I couldn’t celebrate with any friends or family, just the other participants. They worked super hard to make it a great day, so the tears were a mix of missing my folks and gratefulness. I cried this year bc my grandma is getting to the age where she forgot to call, and she used to always make a huge deal out of calling and signing the birthday song, but I had to call her this year, and it just broke my heart

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MINES IN 19 DAYS IM SCARED 😭😭

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I spent my 21st at a bar, calling up friends. I just wanted to talk.

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Deadass asked my mom not to plan SHIT bc I just wanted to sleep in with whatever gifts I got (had a bday like that and it was the best). she deadass went and got a tiara and balloons and everything then got upset when I took it all down….

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It’s crazy the amount of birthday girls crying I’ve seen while working at a restaurant

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Its called being naturally more emotional

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