Anonymous #2 5w

You quite literally just mom shamed rn by saying working moms are worse for babies. No mom needs to hear that. Mind your fucking business, and learn when to stop talking.

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Anonymous #2 5w

And “the time they need” is so clearly NOT scientific language. The time a child needs during one phase of life is entirely different than another. MOST working moms take maternity leave to be with babies. And yet moms with 14 year old kids receive the same comments. “You’re ruining your kids lives” “I could never work if I had kids” “You’ll never have a bond with your children” all because people read one study & think they’re an expert on someone else’s life.

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Anonymous #2 5w

Not having any money is also bad for babies, most households with children especially can not make do on a single income let alone thrive and give them opportunities and experiences

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Anonymous #3 5w

It’s hard enough with two average incomes

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Anonymous #2 5w

The answer is proper paid maternity leave

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Anonymous OP 5w

Oh my god it’s so insufferable when they say this shit. We’re supposed to raise children as a village, not as one or two lonely adults, and in our current society the only practical way to do this for many parents is daycare. Children are supposed to be around other children for their social development. It’s scary to take the risk, but you are also statistically taking a risk leaving your child with loved ones (but that’s harder for people to accept)

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Anonymous #4 5w

Yeah and me and my brother went to in home daycare ran by a single mom. Like I’ve watched enough stuff that I would be just as worried leaving kids at home with a husband bc there is always a chance of fucked up stuff and you thinking you know them better than that

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Anonymous #3 5w

A husband as in my own imaginary husband

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Anonymous #4 5w

A village and not one lonely adult 👏👏 that is exactly the right phrasing. Kids aren’t better off because they were only raised by one biological parent. OF COURSE spending time with your parents will help you to connect with them as a child, but spending time with other caring & trustworthy adults is not going to harm a child if their parents are still showing them love.

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Anonymous OP 5w

Like I think it might honestly be more harmful to have 8 kids all at home w/ you then 2 kids who go to daycare or grandma’s house etc. and get the undivided love & attention of their mom when she is home & happy because she’s not isolated & burnt out.

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Anonymous OP 5w

💯 kids need interaction with a community of people, and they need undivided attention from well-rested parents!!!

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Anonymous OP 5w

I’d kinda agree in my own kinda way as the child of a first grade teacher who was often burnt out after coming home from dealing with little kids all day 😭 but also it has its advantages, like learning and homework wise I was the smartest one there with an elementary ed masters very involved mom

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Anonymous #3 5w

Teacher moms are superheroes for sure!

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Anonymous OP 5w

It is bad for babies development. It just is. The first three years of life is how they’re learning to regulate a lot of their emotions. It’s a FACT, not me being rude to working mothers which I respect because it’s a hard thing to do. Which I stated. I worked for those moms, they wanted to stay home but couldn’t. There is no shame in that

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Anonymous #2 5w

Would you tell a person with cancer, that cancer isn’t ideal for the human body? Like wtf do you not understand about MOM SHAMING, being this exact sort of communication being directed at moms trying their best. STOP.

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Anonymous #2 5w

“Ermmm actually it’s not ideal for the baby if you—“ STOP IT. I HAVE NEVER IN MY LIFE YELLED AT A GIRL LIKE THIS.

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