Girl Talk on Sidechat | Apparently as women were not allowed to call out poor decisions other women make and if you do it’s internalized misogyny to want women to be accountable for their lives. Yikes.

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Apparently as women were not allowed to call out poor decisions other women make and if you do it’s internalized misogyny to want women to be accountable for their lives. Yikes.

Girl Talk 8w

Something especially embarrassing about dropping out of school to go be with a man. Having two kids by him then ultimately breaking up six years later. Then posting snarky quotes online😭 thank god I have a degree wow

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Anonymous 8w

if you're being an asshole then nobody cares if you're right about it. that's what is happening to you. try and be less judgmental about other people's choices. you have no idea what the context is for their life choices.

Anonymous 8w

Listen, I’m not gonna hate on another woman for something like that if what’s done is done. But I’ll never encourage another woman to do it if they haven’t already and if I ever have a daughter I’m doing my best to make sure she doesn’t either

Anonymous 8w

Women have every right to think it’s embarrassing especially when for so long our mothers and grandmothers couldn’t even pursue education or anything but a family and now you throw it away for what?

Anonymous 8w

thisssssss because whyyy is u mad at meeee for looking at for u

Anonymous 8w

People aren’t mad because you said it was a bad choice, you’re just being lowkey mean about it. The way you worded feels less like you have concerns about poor choices and systems and more like you want to feel better than other people

Anonymous 8w

Finally someone said it , just because we are women doesn’t mean we have to agree on the shit that women do

Anonymous 8w

I mean what is shaming her gonna do? Erase the kid? It’s very privileged to even think she might have had better choices to choose from. Not everyone has opportunities to choose better.

Anonymous 8w

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Anonymous

#1 8w

There is no context that makes that better tf

Anonymous

#1 8w

yeah I agree. i don’t think its necessarily internalized misogyny but it is just kinda mean. Like maybe the girl did something to her that was shitty, but then just call her out for that instead of judging her for a difficult life situation

Anonymous

#4 8w

so you have never made a bad decision when you were young and totally in love with someone? Shit happens.

Anonymous

#7 8w

How is having kids, a lifelong commitment, ever a better choice than whatever the situation at hand is 😭😭😭

Anonymous

#4 8w

I mean you’re not really thinking. She may not believe in abortion, have limited access to abortion, gotten pregnant on birth control and didn’t realize, there’s so many possibilities for why she ended up pregnant and decided to keep it. No reason to be shameful about it. Hope life doesn’t hit ya!

Anonymous

#7 8w

Also , obviously she lacks education so she might not have the same critical thinking skills we might have due to education. Obviously she didn’t make great choices but people deserve more grace than society gives them. You have no idea what other people go through or experience

Anonymous 8w

it’s literally the worst looking at the comments under tradwife/sahm/OF content being like “isn’t the point of feminism for women to choose” like genuinely so many people don’t know the difference between true feminism (dismantling the patriarchy as a whole) and modern feminism (supporting anything women do bc they choose to do it)😭

Anonymous

#5 8w

I literally took this situation to an anonymous app instead of posting it on my social media that would obviously be about her.

Anonymous

#8 8w

Idk why this perspective is so demonized… we’re the first generation of women to have a real choice. To fully own our lives. Idk why it’s not taken seriously.

Anonymous

OP 8w

Literally. maybe cuz my parents immigrated from a country where women still have very few freedoms but like, my mom didn’t go through all that and fight her way out for me to fall victim to the systems that tried to stunt her

Anonymous

#10 8w

I feel like there’s a way to do both though? Like … there’s a way to do these things but be empowered and safe and secure while doing it, some of ppl WANT to do of- we should work to get them benefits and make shit safer so that only the ppl that want to can-

Anonymous

#13 8w

Yeah bc why are you mad at the person and not the system, this is clowning on single parents level lowk

Anonymous

#8 8w

I think you’re so close to the point about why people are upset! You’re clearly aware that there are systems at play that she has been victimized by. We cannot as individuals chance the system; sure there are choices at play but she didn’t choose to exist in a system with these pressures. So why is it embarrassing to be a victim of these systems? It’s one thing to say she made unfortunate isn’t productive and it’s the same logic that conservatives use about stuff like poverty.

Anonymous

#8 8w

Women get trapped in these situations so its not really fair to judge

Anonymous

#8 8w

Like if you got trapped in a situation like that, you wouldn’t want people to look at you that way