Girl Talk on Sidechat | What should I do if I’m not happy my bf is gonna be a RA in freshman/sophomore dorm hall in his school. I know I’m insecure and controlling and being a bad gf so how can I fix myself and stop thinking abt this.

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What should I do if I’m not happy my bf is gonna be a RA in freshman/sophomore dorm hall in his school. I know I’m insecure and controlling and being a bad gf so how can I fix myself and stop thinking abt this.

Anonymous 2w

Ok thank yall and update I plan to gradually withdraw from this relationship it’s unhealthy cuz it’s not j abt the RA thing but again thank yall

Anonymous 2w

what year is your bf

Anonymous 2w

Ik what some ppl r gonna say or judge me but our relationship is currently very unstable bc things happened and and we no longer have each other's instagram too, we text through iMessage.

Anonymous 2w

Why does it make you unhappy?

Anonymous 2w

Idk if this is helpful but I think of it like a bar situation, no one LOVES when their significant other goes to the bar but it’s best to just go on as normal because you’d want to go to the bar with your girlfriends guilt free. No one would LOVE their bf to be an RA but it might be best to show support and then in return you’d get support for other stuff, like don’t make a big deal until there’s something to make a big deal about yk

Anonymous

#1 2w

PhD

Anonymous

OP 2w

so your bf is mid 20s

Anonymous

#1 2w

Yea but why does the age matter

Anonymous

OP 2w

cause now i feel the issue falls back on you having a problem with your mid 20s boyfriend going after freshly graduated high school students, or students who are 19/barely 20. like if your boyfriend tends to like girls that young perhaps you should just leave him cause that’s weird

Anonymous

#1 2w

You've shown me a perspective I hadn't considered. Thank you for telling me that. but still, he’s cute to a lot of ppl and he doesn’t look like 25…well idk omg ure right tho but im still annoyed rn

Anonymous

OP 2w

y’all are dating but have each other blocked on social media? any mature relationship should involve communication that’s thorough enough to not have to block each other. also, you don’t have to “fix” yourself. i don’t want to discredit your feelings on this situation. you first have to ask yourself why you’re upset. once you find the reason, ask yourself why that’s your mindset. keep asking yourself why until you get to the root. then from there i think you’ll be able to tackle insecurity

Anonymous

OP 2w

and while you’re mostly asking for advice on your own feelings, don’t be afraid to involve your bf as need be if it helps. open lines of communication is so important in any relationship and as a partner he should be able to meet you where you are and hopefully reassure you that you have nothing to be insecure about

Anonymous

OP 2w

wishing you the best 🫶