Anonymous #1 2w

He’s always been like this and never hidden it—everyone knows this about him. She’s known him for years and knew he was abusive, she just didn’t care. He was doing this before they had a kid. Quite literally she pursued him this entire time and didn’t care. She was free from him for 3 years cause he went to jail and then he got out and she let him come live with her cause she loves him

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Anonymous #1 2w

She doesn’t deserve to be beaten and I don’t blame her for that. I blame her for prioritizing her love for him over her children’s welfare. He’s beating their kids and her kids that are not even his and she does nothing. Not even defend them.

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Anonymous #1 2w

I’m sorry my replies seem like they’re attacking you. It just makes me so angry cause it’s not like she’s scared for her life, she’s acting like this is fine, he just has faults. Like come on. Then they have the audacity to wonder why their son is becoming violent at school.

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Anonymous OP 2w

If he’s doing that stuff, she would be fully justified in fearing for her life

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Anonymous #2 2w

Exactly, but she’s not. She thinks he won’t kill her. This is the same woman who has gotten him jumped multiple times for talking to other women or cause she was mad at him, not for the abuse. He’s a dumbass too cause how many times do you have to get stabbed in the head and beaten with a pipe before staying broken up instead of running back to her when she hits you up

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Anonymous #2 2w

I’m absolutely mad at him. I always have been after getting older and realizing the shit I saw him doing wasn’t okay. I blame her too because she’s just as guilty in the child abuse as he is cause she only sees it as him disciplining them too harshly, not actually abusing their children. Then play dumb about their son becoming violent

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Anonymous #2 2w

There has to be line. At least when my step grandfather beat my grandmother, she never let him touch their kids. She’d take the beatings for them. But then again, if he hit her for my mom not listening, she’d blame my mom right after. The same cousin tried to beat her too (my grandma) and despite us making her get a restraining order, she kept letting him back in the house every time. She always favored my uncles and boys in my family. I was the only girl she ever spoiled.

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Anonymous OP 2w

You don’t understand - abuse like that alters your neurochemistry. She’s probably living in fight or flight. Her brain is lying to her. Of course there should be a line, and the line should be preventing any level of abuse. Once that line is crossed, your baseline for feeling normal and safe is fucked in a way that can not only trap you in that relationship but also to accept that same treatment in other relationships. I’m sorry she played favorites

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Anonymous OP 2w

Of course she can have faults and be imperfect outside of the context of this situation and I’m sure she is but this situation is not her fault and I think the kind of narrative you’re pushing is both unsupportive and harmful

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