Anonymous #1 10w

thank you. i said this as a pro woman advocate. if you want more children, i have thoughts about more than 4, but your body your choice. but at LEAST. give ur body a break. my moms an obgyn. once i grew up, the amount of times she came home crying…we just knew what had happened. she couldn’t tell us much bc of HIPAA, but. we knew. and she was just their doctors. its heartbreaking and not worth the risk. you can have more later. let uour body HEAL.

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Anonymous OP 10w

ive read that a lot of women will even have sex before the 6-8 wks after birth bc they’re scared their husbands will cheat or get upset if they aren’t sleeping with him…hello? and you’re gonna go and get pregnant again?! and that man doesn’t care about ur health enough to at peast let your body heal before putting u through hell again at BEST?! absolutely not. absolutely not.

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Anonymous OP 10w

Funny enough my MIL is a midwife and she experienced the same thing. Personally I could never be with a man like that. I lost my libido for 6 months and my boyfriend supported me the entire time.

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Anonymous #4 10w

my same thought, people just need to minds their business!

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Anonymous #4 10w

handmaid mentality

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Anonymous OP 10w

my old friend is pregnant with her 3rd and she’s barely 21.. years ago she cried to me about her baby daddy beating on her. yet she gave him 2 more kids 🫩

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Anonymous #11 10w

OP isn’t doing that bro, she’s showing concern for women who are getting pregnant back to back to back because it is not good for their bodies.

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Anonymous #7 10w

I mean yes and no. This is dangerous for the woman and the baby. Plus let’s face it in situations like these it’s usually someone else deciding this not the woman

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Anonymous #11 10w

Cool good for them. It’s still dangerous for them and their baby

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Anonymous #13 10w

yeah this was my point. i said in a diff comment it is their body and their choice and i believe in that right fully. im not calling for like laws against it. i just dont think its safe,the medical community at large doesnt think its safe, and i think that if you want a big family your goal should be to do that as safely as possible so you can be physically and emotionally present for the lives youre bringing into the world. hot take, i know. but im not folding on it.

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Anonymous #8 10w

oh god. especially that young thats so dangerous. i hope that she has a healthy and successful pregnancy, and is getting the resources to get herself and her babies to a safer environment. sometimes impregnation can be abuse too. thats where the phrase “barefoot and pregnant” comes from. its an adage men were told..so she cant run from you. i genuinely hope thats not the case but…idk i’ll pray for her😔

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Anonymous #8 10w

it’s not like she “gave” them kids, that kind of rhetoric keeps abused people in these situations

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its not. but i can still advocate for women who want large families to do so safely so they can be there for all the children they want to have. im not stopping anyone lmao. i just think it’s unnecessarily dangerous. if you want multiple kids, have at it. but i’d think youd want to be alive and well to be a mother to all your children, and your husband/partner should respect your wombs healing enough to not risk the increased possibility that you wont be. just my opinion🤷‍♀️

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Anonymous OP 9w

nothing wrong with wanting multiple children and large families in theory. but in practice, doing back to back pregnancies and deliveries isn’t safe. never has been. god willing, your womb will still be there a year-2years later. so just wait, and let your body heal so you and your baby can have a safe pregnancy and not be at greater risk of serious complications or death. have the babies. but let yourself heal in between. thats all im sayin

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Anonymous #12 9w

If u wait like a year and a half ur totally fine and thats ur decision

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Anonymous OP 9w

Agreed. And as someone who works in the medical field I also won’t fold on it. 💯

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A year and a half is perfectly fine and healthy.

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Anonymous #11 9w

The newer comment wasn’t meant for you. And considering the recommended wait time is 18-24 months I’d say thanks for agreeing with OP and I 👍

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Anonymous #11 9w

It’s literally unhealthy to have kids that soon after and your doctors strongly advise against it

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Anonymous #1 9w

They advise 18 months

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Anonymous #11 9w

Yep I’m waiting at least 2 years between my kids if I even have more than one

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Anonymous #1 9w

That’s good and the smart thing to do! As someone who works in the medical field I’m thankful you take this shit seriously

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Anonymous #13 9w

Oh for sure! My MIL is a midwife who used to work for the Amish so she had all kinds of stories so it really can’t hurt to wait but it can hurt not to yk

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