Anonymous #1 21h

like in theory i hate being male centered and having to constantly speak to men to feel grounded and comfortable with myself and want to focus more on friends but i’m unsure what to do for myself to feel okay while i distance myself from these actions if that makes sense… where do i even start?

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Anonymous #1 21h

also does not help that i already have very few friends just due to moving around a lot 🥲

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Anonymous #2 21h

YOU GET IT!!! i legit don’t know how to act codependent on men and be alright being by myself, and i don’t feel whole without a romantic interest in my life. others may feel comfortable and competent being completely independent but that’s not for me 🙃 it’s especially rough when the dating scene seems to become worse and worse over time, and i’m left with no choice but this feeling of loneliness and craving of romantic intimacy ☹️☹️

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Anonymous OP 21h

like honestly this is dumb but i would always have at least one guy i would consistently snapchat and i slowly just stopped snapchating any of them and only my girl-friends. it’s little things like that that i think helps, just little steps at a time. im also a big fan of journaling and therapy and such. i was boy crazy up until about my senior year of college. i hate to say it but is it quite a slow journey 😩 but 100% possible!!❤️

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Anonymous OP 21h

and quality over quantity! i’ve got a few close girl-friends and they’re great for me!

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Anonymous OP 21h

don’t get me wrong tho i definitely want to get married and such eventually but it’s just not a desire in my life right now!

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Anonymous #1 21h

this is so reassuring to me, thank you!! i actually just graduated from college so in this stage of transitioning to like “actual adult” adulthood, i wanna not drive myself insane over men (or lack of men) if that makes sense 🥲 i think i might start journaling and try to see if any girls in the area i’ll move to for my job will be open to becoming friends

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Anonymous OP 21h

that totally makes sense! like people always say “oh just focus on yourself” and yes but like EXTREME focus on yourself, go do things by yourself in public, experiment with new hobbies, find what you enjoy to do on your own, and get a close bond with girl-friends! a close relationship with girl-friends can be helpful imo, can be super fulfilling!

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Anonymous OP 21h

Yes, like I literally cannot imagine life being whole without it, and rationally I know that is true I can be fine but emotionally there is always a pit. I didn’t date at all until I was 19. It’s not like I’ve been in relationships all my life. But I know it’s what I want. I know it’s not an end all be all to happiness but it’s what I want in life it is what I have always wanted since I was a little girl.

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