Anonymous #1 1w

I don’t even pull girl🥲

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Anonymous OP 1w

are u in college or post grad?

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Anonymous #1 1w

I am in college yes

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Anonymous OP 1w

as someone who’s a senior and has been through the worst dating life in college I have to say waiting until post grad is the best decision you could make. If you are an emotionally mature woman with standards, many guys in college are not men & will never be able to add to your life & will only drain you.(I say this as someone with 3 failed college relationships and a number of failed situationships) I honestly wish i stopped looking for a relationship freshman year, i would have been happier😔

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Anonymous #1 1w

Girl how you get these men? Like what you do? They came onto you

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Anonymous OP 1w

two ex’s i met on tinder, the other on instagram. I’ve had luck with hinge but not anything significant (but they tend to be nicer). Idk ur situation but im hispanic and go to a PWI so ive never had much luck at my school, but when i go home to my city im much more successful because theres more variety. I seriously thought i was just ugly until i went abroad and then i realized im just in the wrong place

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Anonymous #1 1w

Girl, I attend an HBCU I’m an African American woman. I’ve never tried dating apps I always wanted to be approached organically and things goes from there

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Anonymous OP 1w

I prefer organic too, but at least for me it’s always been so difficult. It would probably be easier if I was more active on campus and had more friends but i’m just not that social. Honestly i would maybe try hinge. I will say that even if I haven’t gotten a relationship out of it, i’ve had a lot of fun conversations and dates come out of it. There’s guys who i’ve met on hinge who i know would never approach me in person or who said they’ve seen me before but were too scared to come up to me

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Anonymous #1 1w

I’ve tried online dating but it ends with us ghosting. Hinge was the worst

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Anonymous OP 1w

I also struggle with getting approached as well

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Anonymous OP 1w

I wouldn’t take being approached in public as a measure of dating success. The only times i’ve ever seen men approach me or my friends has been in a bar and those aren’t the good types of men because they only want one thing. in my experience, Getting approached authentically nowadays is hard unless it’s someone you previously know because everyone is scared of rejection

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Anonymous OP 1w

My failures in online dating are way more than my successes. I’ve ghosted and been ghosted plenty of times. l usually ghost because I can tell they just wanna fuck or waste my time and they ghost because i give them standards. Is it the same for you? I don’t mean to make this thread so long but i genuinely want to try and give you any advice i can

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Anonymous #1 1w

I honestly don’t know because I don’t do online dating nor do I get approached. But the last guy I tt from TikTok stated he only wanted sex and I’m not down with that and honestly that was the last interaction I’ve had with a guy. ( beginning of January)

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Anonymous OP 1w

So far as being approached? My last time was last July ( was on campus )

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Anonymous OP 1w

As someone who’s not down for casual sex it sounds like you saved yourself the trouble of dealing with low-grade men. I got approached once this semester and that was the first time a man approached me in public and actually wanted to take me out on a date in like a year. I know online dating doesn’t seem like your thing but I would honestly try it for a little and see what comes out of it. At least for me, I know it’s taught me a lot about men and dating even if i haven’t met my husband on it.

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Anonymous OP 1w

i had a happy 6 month relationship come out of a dating app (we eventually ended because he had mental health issues and couldn’t give me what i needed) but we ended on good terms and I was honestly happy while i was with him even if it didn’t last. It might be uncomfortable at first but you may find guys that you enjoy talking to and i know for me, it’s helped me feel less lonely on a campus as big as my own. If that’s not for you then you can always try to be more involved in campus and

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Anonymous #1 1w

try to expand your social circle to include different people. I know it’s scary but i’ve also had good conversations when i’ve approached a guy first., I think if you go in with no expectations it allows you to enjoy the experience regardless of what comes out of it. College is a time to have fun and i know despite my failed relationships i’ve had fun dating. Be opptimistic! college is such a short time and i’ve had to remind myself there’s so many more men waiting out there in the world

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Anonymous #1 1w

You’re right girl !!

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