Anonymous #1 4w

I live with my bf and his brother. I think his brother might be a creep and idk what to do :( my friends already think it’s weird we live together

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Anonymous OP 4w

😯

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Anonymous OP 4w

Why would your friends think it’s weird? And what’s going on with the brother? What does he do that makes you feel this way?

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Anonymous #1 4w

Well I’m living with my bf and his twin brother. We’ve been living together for 3 years now so they don’t know why we haven’t kicked the brother out yet. The brother can be nice sometimes but he’s told me he’ll listen to us argue sometimes.

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Anonymous OP 4w

Plus a couple months ago, my bf and his brother were playing a game with some friends. My bf took a break and we started messing around a bit. His brother ended up knocking on the door and jiggling the handle while we were a couple minutes into it. He yelled at my bf to get back on. My bf ended up going back in his computer immediately. But a couple days later, the brother told me it’s fine if I want to hang out with my bf but I shouldn’t be interrupting their game time with friends

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Anonymous OP 4w

Does your bf and you want his brother gone? If not, why is that any of your friends business? Does it affect their personal lives? And when it comes to listening to arguments, is it like a sexual way? He enjoys listening for that purpose? Because I will admit I listen to my family fight to gauge moods and know how much I need to tiptoe around

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Anonymous OP 4w

We’ve also caught him crouched in front of our door multiple times the past couple of weeks. My cat likes to push the door open and we’ll just see him standing there

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Anonymous OP 4w

Oh yeah didn’t see this when I posted. Nope. Very intrusive. Talk with bf about that for sure. Don’t just suck it up

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Anonymous OP 4w

Talk with your boyfriend if you haven’t for sure and tell him how uncomfortable you feel. If he doesn’t take your worries and complaints in stride…well…

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Anonymous #1 4w

My bf says he’s tired of living with his brother but shrugs off most of the stuff he does. Like he says it’s weird but gets offended if I say his brother is being creepy. I just don’t know who to talk to about it because it feels like my bf doesn’t take it seriously

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Anonymous OP 4w

He should take it seriously. Why is he getting offended at you saying he’s creepy?

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Anonymous OP 4w

Um, without trying to offend you, your bf is not making you feel-HE IS NOT TAKING YOU SERIOUSLY. Idgaf if it was Robert mf Irwin I was dating and living with. If I told my bf his brother was making me feel uncomfortable in our shared space, I would certainly hope he’d tell his brother straight up and if nothing changed, tell him to find a new residence

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Anonymous #2 4w

THANK YOU

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Anonymous #2 4w

That’s what’s upsetting me the most. I feel so unprotected. I’ve told my bf he should ask his parents for advice or something. I’m just over living with his brother. I feel like I have no privacy in the house. Like my cat bit me one time. I told my bf not to tell his brother. A couple of days later, his brother asked me if I had gotten bitten recently. Mind you this was a couple of minutes I had gotten off the phone with my mom about it

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Anonymous OP 4w

Sounds like bf needs to hear “fix it or I’m gone”

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Anonymous #1 4w

My parents just bought a new house. So we’ve been staying at their old place. People think it’s weird that the 3 of us have lived in multiple places together. Like I was hoping he would leave after we moved into my parents. But my bf says he’s tired can’t force his brother to do anything I would have to kick my bf and his brother out the house. I just feel guilty about it

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Anonymous OP 4w

A creepy man in living in your parents house and you feel weird about kicking him out? At least you don’t have a lease break to worry about

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Anonymous OP 4w

So in a very nice way…he doesn’t feel guilty about making you live under strenuous and uncomfortable conditions because he’s just “tired” and can’t make his brother do anything in YOUR OWN HOME. Fucking ay, I hear ya man. So get your bum ass brother and get the fuck out.

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Anonymous #1 4w

Tbh he should already be gone. He saw nothing wrong with his brother sitting in front of their bedroom door MULTIPLE TIMES. Like wtf

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Anonymous #1 4w

I just don’t want this to end our relationship. Plus his brother has anger issues I think. He yells at video games all the time. I’m just worried my bf won’t defend me if things get heated

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Anonymous OP 4w

And he has anger issues? I’m so sorry girl. Your man put you in a dangerous situation for no reason

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Anonymous OP 4w

I genuinely hope the best for you. HOWEVER, you’re clinging to a relationship where your man does not defend you, cannot grow a spine and stand up, and lets things slide so it doesn’t inconvenience HIM. That’s the relationship you want? The love you want for yourself? You’re afraid in your own home to say something because the brother has anger issues and even have a SLIVER of a thought that your boyfriend won’t defend you in that situation?

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Anonymous #2 4w

I never really thought of it that way but yeah. I think that’s why I’m so hesitant to do anything

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Anonymous #1 4w

Im only worried because my bf didn’t really believe me when his brother locked my bf’s cat in the bathroom all night. One morning, I noticed the guest bathroom door was closed. I opened the door and the cat came out. No light, food, or water was in there. I told my bf his brother had to lock her in there. He told me there was no way. The brother was at work so we waited until he came home to ask him. When he came home, he told us he did it because she kept getting in the way.

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Anonymous OP 4w

And he just told his brother to not do it again. I told him he should’ve protected her more and he shrugged it off. This was literally right before we moved into my parents a couple months ago. So I felt like we should’ve parted ways when we moved into my parents’ house

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Anonymous OP 4w

You literally just keep stating reasons he’s a bum and his brother is a bigger bum

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Anonymous OP 4w

YOUR parents house. Girl, that isn’t a “I hope he says something,” that is “this is my house and you’re not coming with and if my bf doesn’t like that, he can not come with either.”

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Anonymous OP 4w

I’m just gonna say this. If he didn’t believe you about the cat, what makes you think he’ll believe you about anything more serious. He’s not protecting you in any way. It feels like he’s taking advantage of you atp

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Anonymous OP 3w

Oh hell nah bro needs to grow up and get out. And also respect you and your bfs time together bc he’s lived his entire life w his twin brother

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