Anonymous blueberryjpg 19h

Assuming that they even considered anything at all. But like genuinely, tell me I’m fucking wrong. I hate porn so much. Like there is exactly ZERO benefits of it.

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Anonymous blueberryjpg 19h

You agreeing with me and seeing my point makes me feel seen

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Anonymous sour_pickle 19h

ofc <3 i really think you’re onto something though, and i think it raises a concern about porn that feminists have been talking about for years. i’m pretty sure some studies have also come out about this too?? but we HAVE to talk about how porn normalizes violence (ESPECIALLY sexual violence) towards women. and how effective it is!!! like there is no way someone can genuinely believe a human would EVER want to have sex with that many people for that long. it would hurt so bad it wouldn’t even be

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Anonymous blueberryjpg 19h

Dude I am a multi-time SA victim and I can’t even imagine. I had to sit on the floor of my shower with the water all the way cold and talk to my boyfriend cuz this shit has my CPTSD going crazy

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Anonymous blueberryjpg 19h

possible!! but (not only bc of porn but definitely definitely influenced by it a LOT) porn makes this kinda ‘normal’. i think one of the studies i was talking about also brings up how choking has gotten a lot more common recently bc of it

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Anonymous sour_pickle 19h

not to get tmi but i can relate so bad, every time something like this happens im reminded that i think im way way way more healed than i actually am 😭😭😭

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Anonymous blueberryjpg 19h

Girl def not tmi! Nothing is tmi for me. I think it is suuuper important that we talk about this and reverse the stigma.

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Anonymous blueberryjpg 19h

OHHHH for sure!

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Anonymous cobaltcrow 19h

Oh for sure! I think the patriarchy and how much “importance” is placed on their dicks and dominating women n shit is such a massive cause for all of this too

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Anonymous sour_pickle 16h

for “dominating women” especially, i feel like there’s an echo chamber amplifying on itself of what masculinity looks like. toxic masculinity has become so ubiquitous that it feels integral to the masculine social hierarchy where men simply seeing women as just another human is looked down on/bullied out by other men. and i don’t see how to change that besides having brave men work against the current to collectively redefine what a “cool guy” looks like

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Anonymous blueberryjpg 16h

choking becoming common is terrifying to me, it seems like an expectation of sex now when breathplay is the most dangerous kink. and you know men aren’t looking up how to do it right, they just see extreme violence in porn and try to emulate it

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Anonymous sour_pickle 16h

as humans our brains are not wired to understand the world where we can have access 24/7 to view any kind of sex/kink we want on demand. it’s addictive and absolutely engineers our brain chemistry, where we’ve largely been influenced by what the porn industry simply sees as the most profitable. I’m all about sex positivity, but men need to recognize they’re selling their brains and how the connect with/view women all for the toxic dopamine hits

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Anonymous cobaltcrow 15h

Oh for sure! I totally agree with you. And some people are trying to excuse their behavior because “they were intoxicated too! 😣”. I’ve been blackout wasted before and I have never once cheated, driven a car, hurt someone, etc. Alcohol doesn’t make people do bad things, people make themselves do bad things. Like people try and use drugs n all as an excuse and yeah sure, your judgement is impaired, but you’re still 100% aware of what you’re doing.

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Anonymous cobaltcrow 15h

Dude me too. Like I’m all for sex positivity and not being a prude but the lengths that men go to are NOT “bdsm” or “kinks” or whatever. It borders on, or is straight abusive. They don’t even realize that the addictive marketing for porn is working on them. It’s crazy.

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Anonymous cobaltcrow 15h

Dude that and CNC! Like that terrifies me.

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Anonymous sour_pickle 15h

omg don’t get me started on CNC. i feel like men’s eyes glaze over at the consensual part, like they’re absolutely not having level headed conversations beforehand on desires, limits, boundaries, check-ins, non verbal signs, aftercare, etc. sometimes i think they see CNC as the new and improved “it wasn’t rape, she said she likes it rough”

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Anonymous cobaltcrow 15h

God that makes me want to vomit. Actually. Like ok imma be so real. I’m almost 21. I had sex with my boyfriend for the first time in August. I like it when he’s a little rough and playful. I like it when we both share control. But it is OK because we have talked about it countless times and he listened when I told him something hurt or I needed something else. Consent doesn’t mean just do whatever and men have such a problem understanding that for some reason.

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