Anonymous #1 11w

Ohhh and it’s still every day. I’ve been moved out for a year now and my mom stills texts and calls me about xyz argument she had with my dad or sisters. And then my dad and sisters will text me about my mom. It’s a disaster. I didn’t realize normal families didn’t do this until college 🥲

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Anonymous OP 11w

The only time my mom asks me how my day is is when she’s using that as an opening to rant about how shitty her day was

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Anonymous OP 11w

I feel like it’s okay to talk about your sisters to you but including you in conflict about your other parent from his or her side is so inconsiderate and a form of emotional abuse 😭 especially starting as a young child you don’t even have room to bring your own emotional load to them or be in the position to vent. That is toooo much responsibility even as an adult.

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Anonymous #1 11w

Yea the sister thing is really just the cherry on top. My biggest issue is them coming to me about marital problems. And it’s so manipulative bc my mom will literally tell me “I shouldn’t be telling you this but I have no friends and nobody cares about me or will listen to me,” so I feel guilty even wanting to tell her to stop. And then my dad will just be clueless and pretend to have no idea why she’s mad and want me to explain it to him 🙃

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Anonymous OP 11w

It’s taken me a long time to realize this isn’t normal! Looking into therapy bc they’ve genuinely messed me upppp

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