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Heyy so if you’re in a long-distance relationship, how long did it take before you saw your bf for the first time? Ps: a girl is struggling 😔
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Anonymous 4w

uh like a year and 2 months but that was bc covid world shutdown

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Anonymous 3w

A month

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Anonymous 4w

About a month but we video called every day

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Anonymous 3w

plane tickets between us are cheap so only about a month due to busy schedules, but honestly a year between different countries is normal. i will say though, ldr isn't for everyone. i think PERSONALLY if my partner was the only reason for me to go to a country that was far from me i don't think that would be sustainable for me. for others, no problem. i've heard of some couples who never met irl for years cuz of this. ultimately it's something for you to think about if meeting soon is a priority

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Anonymous 3w

Omg yall are genuinely so sweet thank u truly ❤️

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 4w

Ok so I’ve been dating this guy for almost a year, and we’ve never met in person. It doesn’t seem like we will anytime soon so I’m starting to feel like it’s pointless to keep going

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4w

Bro what a year is a long time! Try and see him for his birthday at least or him for yours!

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 4w

We live in different countries girl 😭

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 3w

and if so, discuss together about things y'all can do to set a date (doesn't have to be exact day but for ex if you want to aim for summer 2027 or something) and make it happen. otherwise, if you're willing to wait, great. if not and it's a dealbreaker, i don't think that's wrong either tbh just bc other people might do things differently

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 3w

Ok so I have really strict parents that don’t even allow me to date ( I’m an adult btw) so which is why I can never leave the country without them knowing and he can’t come to the US bc he would have to go through the whole visa process

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

get a group of friends and girls trip 👀

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 3w

Girl they won’t allow that either 😭

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

if he submits a tourist visa well in advance it shouldn't be an issue. it's not asking him to move here, but he can get a b2 visa (tourism) and apply for 10 yr validity (NOT to stay for 10 yrs straight but that for 10 yrs he can visit without needing to reapply every time). it's more unpredictable for countries with low return rates but still a better chance than not applying at all. on your side, you can break it down into smaller goals in what you can do to create freedom to travel and be

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 3w

independent. moving out, building financial independence, etc. if this is something you highly prioritise. if neither of you are willing/able to make any active steps then consider if you're willing to wait or not. either way the time will pass so it's up to you to decide what you want to do with that time and what kind of results you want out of it

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