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Girl Talk 8w
Okay maybe I’m crazy, but if someone brings up an issue like, 2-3 times that’s usually a sign of “hm what can we do to work on this?” Not a “hm funny she mentioned this” and moving. On type of moment right
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Anonymous 8w

Like, I’ve told you repeatedly I don’t appreciate how, when I have to leave, I end up staying much later because you and your mom need help, or you need to do something, but whenever you have to leave, you HAVE to go at that time or else your mom will be mad

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Anonymous 8w

I’m Not upset about him having to go, I’m upset about how I’ve felt my time being disrespected, or my own wishes being disrespected. But he was saying “well idk why you were upset about something I can’t control” like bro you are NOT listening I’m upset about you not respecting MY time. It’s a small thing, but the fact that I’ve brought it up several times and it’s only taken him just NOW to understand it is so frustrating

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Anonymous 8w

Bc now, he’s like “I didn’t realize you were this upset about it”, and the only reason he’s saying that is because I just said it point blank which is different than how I would have said it in the past. It was still a valid feeling that you should’ve realized WAY before this, especially when it had been brought up several times. NOT now

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Anonymous 8w

it’s true that it’s something he should work on. but also, you need to be the one to jsut leave and put the boundary in place. you can also say “no i really have to go right now, i can’t stay any longer sorry” and leave. he might not be respecting your time, but you can still respect your time

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 8w

The thing is, I’ve done that. And when I do do that, that’s when I’ve brought the issue up and he goes “oh I’m sorry” and I think he’s going to do better then he doesn’t. That’s where I’m frustrated

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 8w

are you frustrated bc you’re staying late or because he’s asking you to stay late? because you’re in control of how late you stay

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 8w

It’s just funny, because it’s just an immediate “I have to go” from him but if I say that, it feels like I genuinely have to claw my way out to get home even when I’m saying “I’m going right now”

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 8w

I’m frustrated because he asks me to stay late. I’ll be getting ready to leave and in the past, he and his mom have been springing into action saying “oh wait before you go, we need this!” Or he goes “but wait I really need to do this” and it’s just like bro what. We had four hours to do this shit

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 8w

So then I end up being frustrated that I’m staying late as well as being frustrated that he/they have asked me to stay later than I need to

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 8w

yeah no i totally get your frustration. i’m not sure he will change though if he keeps getting away with it. i think you actually just need to say no and physically walk out the door without waiting for their permission to leave

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