girl we are allowed to be exhausted by hearing the same complaints over and over for yrs and seeing nothing be done about it.

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what makes u think we haven't tried 😭 of course we have. there comes a point where you notice they're not listening and nothing can be done

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Anonymous #1 6w

create a boundary that u don’t want to listen to them complain then and what makes you think evb in these comments has spoken to their friends abt it. if it doesn’t apply to u then u shouldn’t feel targeted

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Anonymous #6 6w

they be more judgmental towards a woman than the man that’s cheating or vice versa aka victim blaming

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Anonymous #5 6w

literally i thought we supported women’s rights and wrongs 🫣

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Anonymous #5 6w

at a certain point we need to also empathize with friends who are being mistreated, boundaries are important & I agree with communicating. but i don’t understand why friends always have to take the brunt of the emotional weight when someone is in a poor relationship & that is just expected. especially since we’re clarifying these aren’t abusive situations, just… annoying couples

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it’s not “victim blaming” to acknowledge that not all relationships are forced upon you. someone choosing to go back to someone they resent, that they simply just don’t like that much anymore, who they don’t get along with, etc. is not forced upon them. quite frankly, some of my old friends WERE the awful partners. they had so much resentment toward their partner & who had to hear about it? they’re friends. but who was never there for us? her!

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sure, you can never know 100% of what’s going down in a relationship. but we can’t use that as an excuse for being treated like doormats. we are ALLOWED to vent our frustrations without having to always consider every possible explanation for someone being a shit friend

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and people are arguing w you because this post is clearly about non-abusive situations. she even left a disclaimer. so can people not even vent without minding every single word? it’s not a realistic standard. that’s my point.

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op literally said “i understand if its an abuse situation.” so we are all speaking about situations under the assumption we’re not talking about abuse victims of any kind. let this be a place to vent. not accuse exhausted friends of not having enough empathy. that’s my point.

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Your original comment accused us of having a lack of understanding and compassion when those of us venting have likely done nothing but listen and empathize with friends that have treated us poorly in return due to circumstances they have full control over (reminder, this post specifically excluded abusive situations). Of course it is upsetting.

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i never said emotional abuse was okay? what a bad faith reading of my comment. and for the LAST time, yik yak is an anonymous app where people should feel free to vent about the mistreatment by their friends without being tone policed, when what we are doing is not hurting anyone, because we have made it clear we all do have empathy for abuse victims & that’s not who we are talking about 👍

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But you didn’t specify that originally and now you’re just back tracking to justify your point, when originally it was YOU that missed the point completely if you’re talking about abusive situations on a post specifying that we were not talking about that. And yes I’m aware emotional manipulation exists, but it’s not the case in every shitty relationship

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your comments don’t apply to this post, your comments don’t apply to ANY of us, and shouldn’t be here. we acknowledged none of this was about abuse. and yet you just accused me personally of saying emotional abuse is okay. out of nowhere. maybe you need to take a breather.

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Anonymous #6 6w

we don’t support women hurting themselves 💀

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so empathetic… 💀 bye

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i’m trying to reason with you & defend the women in this comment section. you accused me of heinous shit & insulted me. you’re just being rude like? hard block. sorry we couldn’t work it out 👍

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Anonymous #7 6w

i wasn’t being rude until mfs started getting disrespectful abt a comment and opinion

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Anonymous #8 6w

ok boo period

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You don’t have to take out your own embarrassment by attacking strangers online yk. 😭

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Anonymous #10 6w

yay ❤️

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Anonymous #10 6w

yayyyy so proud of you!!

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Anonymous #8 6w

I feel lowkey pathetic that he treated me badly when we weren’t together then I actually got into a relationship w him 😔

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Anonymous #10 6w

it’s not you who feel that way he’s pathetic babe!

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Anonymous #5 6w

Like I stayed even tho all my friends thought he was bad news but they saw how he treated me nicely and i convinced them i was ok

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Anonymous #8 6w

yes because isolating someone who you are supposed to love will solve everything, unconditional love means being annoyed with a friends decision because it’s not what you would’ve done but still sticking by them how are we supposed to have community when no one wants to give up their convenience of “self peace” 🙄

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Anonymous #6 6w

yes!!!

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Anonymous #10 6w

it’s okay i’ve been there! but you’re free and ik you will find love!!!

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Anonymous #10 6w

don’t settle bbg!! i’m rooting for you!

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You’ve posted multiple separate comments. Just let it rest

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its not hating to point out that you’re going on rants to absolutely nobody. If the person you were talking to deleted the comments, then why are YOU still going? You can reply to the same exact threads you were going on and on in earlier. No need to make numerous separate ones just to repeat yourself.

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Anonymous #2 6w

you can also just reply to yourself to continue the thread instead of making a bunch of brand new comments

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Anonymous #6 6w

unconditional love is extremely unhealthy, tf? that’s is how these people stay with their shitty bfs in the first place 💀

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Anonymous #6 6w

if someone prioritized their awful bf over me, I’m not gonna wait at the door wagging my tail just to starve or get kicked. if the few times they bother to hang out is filled with them complaining about their bfs that they KNOW are bad for them, that’s just disrespectful and immature. it’s different for abuse, but having “unconditional love” for someone is just immature.

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Anonymous #8 6w

mothers, daughters, friends, found family? all of those can have unconditional love thats is healthy huhhhh? 😭 this og scenario is also not harmful or “unhealthy” at all just annoying, being so judgy for a fault that happens so frequently to women is odd

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Anonymous #8 6w

the og post is not about prioritizing a friendship, it’s about staying with a shitty boyfriend please read !

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Anonymous #6 6w

literally!!!

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Anonymous #6 6w

unconditional love means you would stay with someone even if they wanted you dead. mothers, daughters, friends, and found family can all be abusive or exploitative. and if you fr have unconditional love for your FRIENDS, then you need to grow tf up. that’s an extremely unhealthy mindset, and no shit I’m gonna judge you for behavior that could get you killed 💀

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Anonymous #8 6w

in the context where someone is being a bad friend or not prioritizing to hang out. that’s a different context, however this post’s context is about not wanting to be a friend so someone who complains about the same thing over and over (which can be about more than just a shitty boyfriend) if you’re talking from experience then that’s your own business and it’s not my place to comment on your own unique situation? but what i said is not crazy at all by any means 😭😭😭

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Anonymous #6 6w

be careful babe they don’t like different opinions in here that’s all i’m gonna say but i agree w you ml 💕

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Anonymous #6 6w

unconditionally loving someone means loving them under any context. it’s on-topic to bring up situations where that makes no sense 💀 idk what you want from me, and we’re clearly not on the same page. agree to disagree.

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Straight and Gay what are you on about?? I don’t wanna hear ts from anyone 😭 either leave him or leave me out of it.

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