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Why did I choose not to have kids? I starve myself till 6pm. I hate going to the doctor. I sleep till 5 in the afternoon. I have PTSD and depression. I suck at homework, and I don’t have time for a man’s shit. Yeah kids are not in my future.
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Anonymous 9w

you never have to justify choosing yourself over a cookie cutter life forced upon women that has no benefits

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Anonymous 9w

It is very weird and unfortunate that choosing to be childless is one of the very few life choices we feel the need to justify like this. No one gets interrogated about why they choose to live in a city vs the country, why they went to college or not, etc. to the same extent as not having kids :/

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 9w

LITERALLYYY if anything we should be asking people why tf they do choose to have kids

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 9w

Most people feel like if they have kids young, they can be in their late 30s and have no responsibilities when that’s not how it works at all. Parenting doesn’t stop especially when they get older.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 9w

and plus nobody has a valid or legitimate reason why they want to have kids they’re reasons always start with “i want”. but somehow the childfree people are the selfish ones lmfao

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 9w

Right, a good parent will continue to support their child even after they aren’t a child anymore. Obviously not to be confused with spoiling a child into adulthood. My parents basically slowly weaned me off of needing their financial support as I was able to afford things on my own, which took until a little after graduating undergrad

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 9w

I tell people being childless is very much selfless. People don’t realize children need more than just basic necessities. Many people, especially young people, cannot provide what a child really needs. It’s so many people who go to college and they have children while in college, and I’m like, “That’s stupid.” Children cannot fix marriages; they cannot fix your mental health or your personal problems.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 9w

Exactly, as someone who grew up with a parent that could not provide for me, it definitely impacted my life. I knew we were homeless. I knew we weren’t going to eat every night. I was failing my classes because I didn’t have the support I needed. I was sleeping in class because I was tired from staying up all night raising my siblings. We moved so much I never got to make friends, so my social skills declined badly. People think children don’t understand what’s going on when they do. 1/2

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 9w

If you can’t take care of yourself, if you can’t afford bills and have the proper resources and support, don’t have kids. Unfortunately, people don’t understand that because they have the right to have kids. Just because you can doesn’t mean you should.

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