Anonymous #2 3w

no he's just like on her stories and swiped up. they're not really FRIENDS but they will occasionally swipe up on each others stories. she's told me ab it in the past. this time she didn't and they had been texting for like. 3 days. before i saw the notif on her phone.

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Anonymous OP 3w

Yeah that def is a conversation that needs to be had. I feel like it isn’t a full reasn to break up, but you should have a talk about boundaries and how and why this makes you uncomfortable. And if the conversation doesn’t go well then Idk maybe it is time to break up

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Anonymous #2 3w

yeah. we've talked ab it before and she knows like. there are some exes im fine w her talking to as long as she tells me when she does and theyre not talking all day everyday. which they weren't, but she was still keeping it from me and this is like. her first boyfriend...

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Anonymous OP 3w

I would def bring the conversation forward again just as kind of a reminder like hey we agreed we would talk about this if they talk to you. And I wouldn’t do it in a passive aggressive way just start it off as you saying hey I see this notification, as your partner I would like to be informed on this sort of thing like we talked about previously

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Anonymous OP 3w

u shouldn't have to remind someone about a boundary as simple as that that you set. completely within bounds of a breakup if u wanted to

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Anonymous #2 3w

You don’t need more info

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Anonymous #3 3w

yeah that's my thing is it's kind of a big deal to me. like i told her it's fine just lmk, and then she didn't and that's weird!

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