If you’re so worried about reproduction then you better go visit the 400,000 kids in foster care like hello

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People can call me selfish till they are blue in the face I do not care

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The mindset that ppl think you HAVE to create a family or else “what are you doing with your life” is so stupid like hello? Clearly they’re using that freedom to do whatever they want without the burden of a child. And ppl who don’t want kids often end up seeing them as a burden when they didn’t want the kid in the first place. Geez not everyone is meant to be a parent so why tf would we push someone to be one when it just means that the family is going to be unhappy

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Not having kids is the least selfish thing a person can do. It’s way better to have kids because you want them. If you just have them to not be “selfish”, then you’re more likely to hate them for it

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You know what’s selfish? Having more kids than you can realistically care for, expecting the older siblings to nanny, then saying your kids owe you grandchildren and taking you in as a rent free roommate when you get old 🥸

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Everyone in this chat put it perfectly thank you all for being so aware and realistic

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People are always going to disagree with your choices no matter what you do. I have heard people call woman who WANT to be mothers selfish and stupid. There are always going to be people who want to change your life, just do what you think is right and you’ll be okay.

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who’s going to be taking care of them late at night, when they’re sick, pushing the out?? ME so unless they’ll be up with me through it all I don’t wanna hear it. Good parents are those who acknowledge the responsibilities it takes to be a parent and knows they’re not ready and decides it’s not time yet

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I will die on the hill that having children is selfish. Bringing in life simply because you want one is based around your own desire. People have kids then treat them like they should he grateful to be birth. Like no that was your choice based on what you wanted.

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honestly having kids is selfish. and i say that as someone who wants kids. like not having kids is a personal choice and having kids affects everyone around you

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Having a kid just because you want to is selfish. Not much planning ever goes into the quality of life

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If women who don’t want children are so selfish why would you even want them to be responsible for a child??? Whenever anyone sees bad parents they’re like “some people shouldn’t have had kids” but then they’re also pissed when they don’t have kids!!

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my least favorite is hearing about the declining birth rate as if that doesn’t just mean 1) less teenage pregnancies and unwanted pregnancies and 2) we’re already overpopulated anyway????? and 3) just bc it is declining doesn’t mean it’s a drastic decline nor means we are south korea level so ppl need to stfu

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I just reply with “I am selfish, why would you want a selfish person to raise a child?” to watch their brain short circuit

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LIKEEE why would anyone want women who refuse to raise a child to have a child?? i thought yall were so pro life and want the children to be cared for?? like at this point y’all are just asking for more child abuse and neglect cases

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Period.

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Calling women and girls “selfish” “not nice” “not polite” etc are ways to control us and condition us to be easily taken advantage of. It’s not a coincidence that in his emails, Epstein described girls who did not allow themselves to be put in vulnerable situations “not nice.” Like the Thai model who would only agree to meet him in public at a restaurant (he was promising her help with her career). Or like the time Trump called the woman reporter “not nice” for pressing him on the files

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I get that but I’m glad my point of view on having kids has changed. Of course I want my family’s legacy to continue. Besides, if I dint I wouldn’t have the amazing relationship I do right now.

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Yes keep it that way. I have a baby on the way and realized my fun life is over

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