Girl Talk on Sidechat | Got into a fight bc my man says “wanna do smth?” Or tried asking me out with “If you’re free @ 4 let’s go out if you want.” No I want him to make a fucking plan. Am I being picked up? Why dinner @ 4? Where at? What do I wear? So I guess we aren’t going..

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Got into a fight bc my man says “wanna do smth?” Or tried asking me out with “If you’re free @ 4 let’s go out if you want.” No I want him to make a fucking plan. Am I being picked up? Why dinner @ 4? Where at? What do I wear? So I guess we aren’t going..

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Anonymous 2w

I don’t get what’s wrong with this. He’s a human too if u want something you have to communicate it to him or how is he supposed to know

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Anonymous 2w

You guys just have different communication styles and are type a vs type b people, it's hard but in this specific instance neither of you are wrong, you both need to communicate what you want. if he doesn't take you out the way you want in the past and you've communicated this then you'll probably grow more resentment and should reconsider if this relationship is working and what you want the future to look like

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Anonymous 2w

Update: texted him 10 min ago asking “So were you gonna tell me a plan or?” And ofc we got into an argument abt it 1&2 days ago, he said he would give me space today. Sure sure so there wasn’t a plan bc “I was unsure” no bro. He just didn’t have smth. I said I was unsure if I wanted to do smth without being told what was going on.

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Anonymous

#1 2w

Nope I did, said I don’t wanna do anything if I’m gonna be making the plan again. Also added in that if I’m being asked to do smth I wanna know what that smth is with him before I even bother commuting and committing to plans I probably don’t wanna do. Like asked me if I’m free today @ 4 a few days ago like idk? Maybe I can be? He’s never taken me out on a date that he made by himself before so my hopes are very low.

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Anonymous

#1 2w

And I haven’t texted him all day. So if I’m ready to go full beat and planned outfit to try and match any sort of occasion and he isn’t here, yea imma be pissed bc I left the door open for it.

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Anonymous

OP 2w

honestly if you’ve communicated this to him and he STILL isn’t listening, you’re in the right. even if he doesn’t like it or w/e then that’s his responsibility to break up. but making your wants clear and then them constantly being ignored? gross

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Anonymous

#3 2w

Ya honestly this is valid I’m a type b person and this is how I communicate aswell with my friends

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Anonymous

#2 2w

It’s extremely toxic. Every time we argue even simple things like this, he fr blows up, worst shit you’ll ever hear or read. Almost filed a report one day. And yea Ik Ik. It’s just really hard to get out of a real emotional trauma bond situation, not just the teehee haha kind. A real one.

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Anonymous

#3 2w

Resentment is fully loaded baby. There is years worth of bullshit I could spill. Like my comment above it is a bad relationship. It’s extremely hard to get out of or lose my connection to him right now. Side note☹️ we had reconnected in December thinking it would go better since he got himself more situated in life. I think it’s just who he is now.

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Anonymous

OP 2w

Oh ya if he’s exploding over small arguments u rlly need to get out of it bc he clearly doesn’t have any regulation and it can get dangerous but i get it’s rlly hard when u love someone

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