erm yeah luckily i’m a good person so im gonna contact her. but i could be evil, go on dates with these bozos, and the whole time know they have a bf and not tell them. like lots of guys who cheat are cheating with girls who know and don’t care. i know bc my ex cheated on me with his ex before me and her ass def was telling me all about it. i found out bc i went through his phone. and ykw i trusted him completely even knew his password and he still cheated bc he knew id never go through it.

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the idea that it’s toxic to go through your partners phone is rhetoric that favors cheating partners. if you trust him, he should have nothing to hide except these men DO. if there’s nothing there, great! my ex was mad i went through his phone. guess what he was mad BC HE WAS CHEATING ON ME AND GOT CAUGHT 😭 i mean i was gonna MARRY HIM

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it’s not bad advice. it’s smart. trusting your partner at all costs is just plain stupid. men CHEAT. they just do. every girl who’s been cheated on trusted her man. better not to waste your time. you don’t have to do it behind his back. you should be confident that you can ask him to go through it and he’ll say yes. i am SO GLAD i went thru my ex’s phone. i wasted months dating a man that was cheating bc i didn’t know

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then do it in front of him idc. but don’t be stupid lmao

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it’s not controlling. that can be a regular part of a relationship. you should have the confidence in each other that he can checks yours whenever and you can check his. if you wanna be foolish, fine. don’t do it. but i’ve been APPROACHED by men that are cheating, and i’ve been cheated ON. and i trusted every man i dated. call me immature if you want. you’re wasting your time if you can’t be POSITIVE he’s not cheating

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you call it not trusting your partner, and i call it open communication and honesty. see how we can throw these terms around? as someone who’s experienced it, im telling you that being cheated on SUCKS and it’s totally devastating, but it’s worse to waste your time loving a man, caring for a man, having sex with a man, and he’s cheating. my only regret was not going through his phone sooner. months of a painful relationship that i was trying to patch up for us and he was being unfaithful.

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it’s not violating their privacy if they’re okay with it. which they should be. you really wanna be marrying these people and having kids with them and you don’t even have the right to check their phone with their permission? that’s fucking stupid i’m sorry stop being so naive

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no they don’t. bc mine didn’t lmao. it’s just basic honesty and communication to HELP with trust. it’s called accountability. but do whatever you want. i’m just saying i’ve been burned before and im not doing that shit again. i mean i had his PASSWORD he used to leave his phone OUT in front of me and he was cheating the whole time i never knew bc i didn’t want to be “distrustful” and look through it and he knew that.

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clearly you haven’t. ykw it’s normal for people in a relationship to share location, share phone passwords, and check up on each other to FOSTER trust. like it or not, people cheat. better to know sooner rather than later. i mean do whatever you want, but these men are cheating on yall or trying to and you don’t know.

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that’s their opinion, and my therapist has another opinion. it’s all subjective and it depends on what works for you. what works for me is being able to trust my partner which i do by having confidence that i could check his phone and he wouldn’t have a problem with it. if you feel like you can’t do that, check who you’re dating…

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do what you want. the men are cheating. i’ve experienced it personally. i think it’s better to know but if you wanna be naive and waste years with a man who’s trying to get with other women, go for it.

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girl miss me with that shit. i know im amazing. i also know he cheated on me. and while i know thats not my fault, dont try to blame me for not “being trustful.” you need to think critically about the kind of rhetoric you’re spreading here. i’m telling you NOW that i have PERSONALLY seen men cheat on all sides of the equation. not checking in is like not wearing a seatbelt bc you trust the driver. it’s fucking stupid.

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actual scientists WERE NOT IN MY FUCKING RELATIONSHIP. ykw why don’t you crawl back to wherever you came from and stop hurting women by convincing them to be naive. becuase to be clear I COULD NOT GIVE LESS OF A FUCK WHAT SOME RANDOM MEN WITH A FEW YEARS OF SCHOOL HAVE TO SAY ABOUT ME TRUSTING MY BOYFRIEND!!!! if you don’t wanna go thru his phone, don’t <3! hope this helps! 😍 reply again and i’m actually gonna block u

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Anonymous #1 44w

no definitely do not do that!

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*was NOT telling me about it

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and they were NOT dating my cheating ex :/

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all I’ve learned from this is that you two shouldn’t date 💀

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also, everyone has a different idea of a “healthy relationship” and different boundaries related to that. I personally am a private person and would never let someone touch my phone, but that’s because I’m emotionally open and expect the same from my partner

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Anonymous OP 44w

Trust I do NOT want even know what’s on that

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Maybe check to see if she’s commented on posts? I’m sure you have though. Or see if she’s in posts he’s tagged in/ if she’s posted him

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check the likes

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it’s okay to have differing opinions and personally idc if a future partner checks my phone and vice versa cuz i have nothing to hide or any embarrassing shit. it just really depends on the relationship and ppl.

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Anonymous #1 44w

Glad I wasn’t the only one

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Anonymous #4 44w

i tried but he follows like a million women 😭

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