Anonymous ellie 1w

I just feel uncomfortable asking for support. I feel like ppl like the idea of helping ppl when they’re down but then they grow to resent because the person isn’t getting better or healing as fast as they want.

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Anonymous ellie 1w

Idk maybe that’s bad. But when my depression was at my worst and I sought out help from my family and friends I was kinda dismissed so I just don’t bother anymore

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Anonymous OP 1w

yeah that definitely is a possibility. especially with people who don't understand the full depth of how mental health issues can impact someone. they may want to help, but don't know how, which is rough in itself. a lot of times it can just make things worse. personally, i just tell them that i'm struggling with my own shit rn as an explanation for any distance. i have friends who struggle with similar issues to me, and they're a lot better about helping out when i need it and knowing how

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Anonymous ellie 1w

far to push

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Anonymous ellie 1w

btw i totally don't intend any of this as unsolicited advice. this is just my personal perspective on this.

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Anonymous ellie 1w

Yeah despite the awareness of mental health issues there’s still a massive stigma towards it. I’m glad you were able for find friends who were able to help you navigate that!

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Anonymous ellie 1w

None of my friends struggle with depression (to my knowledge) and they’re all doing fairly well school and job wise so I don’t think they have the tools to help me navigate what I’m dealing with.

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Anonymous ellie 1w

No I totally get that thank you!

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Anonymous OP 1w

damn i'm sorry to hear that frfr. depression literally sucks sm. and ur completely right about the stigma if i hear one more person essentially saying "u need to pull urself up by ur bootstraps" i will literally scream.

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Anonymous ellie 1w

The “pull yourself by the bootstraps is the worst”. I tried really hard to do that and even when I managed to be productive it about stuff done I still felt empty on the inside. I learned ppl who don’t value mental health can never care about anyone else’s

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Anonymous OP 1w

that's really true. and with mental health awareness people suddenly all become expert armchair psychologists whether they value it or not all the while pushing the same stigmas that need to be fought. it's an absolute nightmare

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Anonymous ellie 1w

Yes you get it! If you don’t mind was there anything outside of community support that made your depression more manageable? Im trying to find ways of making mine better evens incrementally

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Anonymous OP 1w

actually yes! so i got a pet cat which forces me to stick to a schedule to take care of her. it makes me get out of my nest to go buy her food, and keeps me from bedrotting to feed and play with her. she's like a little person i can vent to and hug and she senses when i'm stressed or slipping and drags me up.

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Anonymous ellie 1w

also i started grad school with really strict attendance policy. it's a program that i really like and it's given me motivation and goals to work towards which has given my life a bit more direction. the forced socialization and time i spend walking, in class, or outside in transit has really really helped. otherwise i would have just sat at home and spiraled.

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Anonymous ellie 1w

i think just being able to change my environment and spend some time outside of my own head has done a lot to make it significantly easier to manage, but i still try to keep mindful of my inner ecosystem because it's super easy to slip back into old patterns

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Anonymous ellie 1w

on a smaller scale, i've started cooking for myself (still not super healthy stuff) but like way healthier than constantly doordashing (which i was doing) once again it's an excuse for me to have to go out, and it gives me a task to focus on for that day

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