
one theory of mine is that men have to put so much effort into finding sex and we dont have to so they just see having sex as a competition between men and get jealous of women since we sincerely dgaf 😭 i think this is also why they feel so much need to show dick pic to women or just compare size to one another because they WANT the feeling of putting in effort for this competition.
what else would you call it when women aren’t viewed as people who can make decisions (ex. who they sleep with) and instead objects who have things done to them (which is the only excuse for how someone could see a man and woman sleeping with the same number of people as being different)
And I’ll add: It’s not true that women (generally speaking) nowadays are all super picky with unrealistic expectations. There kind of men we want (again, generally speaking) exist. And the qualities we look for are not unattainable to the average guy either. Social media can make it seem like most women have super specific (and very superficial) requirements, especially with height.
I know that me and *all* the single women in my social circle have very low expectations of just being a genuinely decent guy around our ages who wants more than superficiality. Instead, *I* get chasers and people who see me as nothing but an object, a predator, or some kind of “conquest” when I’m literally just a boring homebody who plays games and enjoys baking.
The topic of men/dating comes up *very* often in conversation with other women. At least in my experience it seems to be one of those universal “girl chatting” topics. So many of us are like “I just want a guy that is nice, not creepy, treats me like a human being rather than a sex object, doesn’t have anger issues, etc.” Looks factor in, but for many women, personality really is what makes a guy sexy.
Yes!! Emphasis on equal partner. And it’s possible for any guy to meet our standards!!!! Most of us are not superficial. Maybe some women will only date a guy over 6 feet. And I’m sure that some men have their own very very specific requirements for women they date. But you don’t have to go surgically increase your height to get laid.
My bf is exactly my height (5’5), and when I was realizing I had a major crush on him, his height did not factor into my thought process AT all. That could just be a me thing. But I didn’t even think about his height until my friend described him as short and I was like… oh damn yeah he’s really short😂 I did not see it as a flaw though, just as a neutral description.
I’ve also met short guys that were constantly self-pitying about their height and how women don’t like him because he’s short. And yes, I realize there are women that actually prefer taller guys. But I can bet that his unpopularity with women has less to do with his height and a lot to do with his obsession over a superficial trait, and incel-y “women have wronged me so I’m not gonna be nice for them” attitude.
And for me, shortness isn’t like a flaw that I overlook because I love him. I just straight up don’t find height attractive/unattractive. Until I am in love with a specific guy. And then whatever height he is becomes the most attractive height to me. I’m sure if my bf was 6’5 I’d be going on about how much I love tall guys. But I love that he’s 5’5 because we can both be tiny together.