Girl Talk on Sidechat | Need help. So my abusive ex texted me, after a year of no contact. He made a fake number to text me. I told my bf because I thought he would want to know and because I was upset. His text made me sick. Now my bf is mad bc I was upset over another man.

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Need help. So my abusive ex texted me, after a year of no contact. He made a fake number to text me. I told my bf because I thought he would want to know and because I was upset. His text made me sick. Now my bf is mad bc I was upset over another man.

Anonymous 1d

Some people don’t know how trauma works/ how it stays. I have a similar past and I think your current bf feelings is a waste of your time and healing process. I don’t think it’s your place to explain to him how trauma impacts others

Anonymous 1d

If youre boyfriend really likes you he will eventually get over it. But, i definitely see where hes coming from. It doesnt feel good to be in a relationship where your partner isnt healed from their ex. If my man was triggered over their ex texting them id assume they clearly still have some sort of feeling towards their ex.

Anonymous 1d

it’s so normal to be upset about an abusive ex abruptly reaching out, as the other person said it’s not your job to explain to him how trauma effects people. how long have you and your current bf been together?

Anonymous 1d

I would like to add he ignored me all day and then asked me to send him pics.

Anonymous 1d

What do I do?? Like my bf is mad mad. Bc I am/was upset over another guy. But my ex literally traumatized me and gave me ptsd. And my bf is saying I’m not over him bc of my reaction and it’s not normal. But I don’t want my ex??

Anonymous

#1 1d

Like if your bf is so mad about this, I think it speaks to his emotional intelligence

Anonymous

#1 1d

I agree but also, it’s understandable why hes feeling these emotions. Id say explain and work it out and if he is still being weird about it leave him.

Anonymous

#2 1d

yes! especially if your bf has never been in an abusive/toxic relationship and dealt with the aftermath, he might not understand what you’re feeling

Anonymous

#3 1d

Yup, communication is key.

Anonymous

#3 1d

Two months

Anonymous

OP 1d

not okay at all

Anonymous

OP 1d

Ah hell nah. His text was ok like u can work that out but asking to send pics after is insane. He doesnt respect you, bye leave him dont even respond to him or explain anything. U dont owe explanation to someone who sees u as lower than them.

Anonymous

OP 1d

Dump him!

Anonymous

OP 11h

If this is how he reacts to you having a negative reaction to someone who harmed you reaching out again, you should keep him at a distance if not break up because that’s a HUGE red flag for me