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is this a red flag from my bf? am i reading into it too deep?
15 upvotes, 26 comments. Sidechat image post by Anonymous in Girl Talk. "is this a red flag from my bf? am i reading into it too deep?"
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Anonymous 4w

i mean… kinda. he’s allowed to be insecure. he’s allowed to ask you not to wear revealing clothes. you’re allowed to say no, i will where what i want. at that point he should either drop it or break up with you if he can’t handle it. a boundary means that HE has a limit, it doesn’t mean he can enforce that limit on other people

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Anonymous 4w

This is not a red flag…

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Anonymous 4w

if he can’t handle a baddie he shouldn’t be with a baddie. idk why men get with beautiful women and someone expect them to change so other men don’t look??

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Anonymous 4w

like i get what he's saying but at the same time your insecurities are not my problem lmao

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Anonymous 4w

Not a 🚩 just an insecurity he has. Just have a conversation with him about it

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Anonymous 4w

Not a red flag because he is being honest and seems to be good at communicating with you, BUT it is something he’s gonna have to learn to be okay with. At the end of the day he should be proud to have a baddie (you)😉

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Anonymous 4w

I would talk to him about it.

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Anonymous 4w

🚩

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Anonymous 4w

in what context is this in?

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 4w

he doesnt want you to wear revealing clothes?

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 4w

well tbh it's more complicated than that. yes that was regarding halloween and i wanted to go out and party and i maybe sorta bought a revealing costume behind his back knowing he wouldn't like it. i bought it cuz i thought it was cute and i liked it. he was upset that i went behind his back and he didn't like that i was wearing revealing clothing (what he said in the text) and me going out because it was "single people activity"

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4w

with that in mind probably my fault

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4w

but i also just can't help but feel like if you can't handle a hot girl find an ugly one? i'm not gonna bow down and follow your demands lmao

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 4w

i tried but it didn't really go anywhere. i tried telling him that we have been dating over a year now and by now you should trust me. he let me go out last year because it was the beginning of the relationship

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4w

but at the same time i still wear what i want. he is saying he doesn't like it but he always says he would never tell me what to do

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4w

telling you that going out is single people activity is crazy

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 4w

eh i mean idk i kinda agreed with him with that cuz if you have a significant other why are you out partying without them?

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 4w

he doesn't go to my school so that's why he couldn't come. if he did ofc i would have him come. or even just regular bars but he forgot his costume lmao

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 4w

and today he told me he was going out to the bar with his friends and i was like what the fuck what about that whole "single people activity" thing

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 4w

thank you queen. he never straight out tells me not to do anything but i can def tell when he is upset

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4w

because people might want to party with their friends and their significant other might feel out of place with them. also it’s fair to just want to hang out with your friends sometimes. if yall are in agreement on that though then that’s not my business. but getting mad at you for both going places and wearing things is walking a fine line

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 4w

especially when it becomes a double standard. like he’s allowed to out with friends but not you?

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 4w

that's what i told him at first but he was like going out on halloween is different than going out to the bar before thanksgiving and im like going out is going out??? what's the fucking difference lmao

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 4w

he never told me not to do anything in the course of our relationship and if i went to bars with my friends he wouldn't care

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4w

yeah i think ultimately he needs to get his insecurity under control and stop making it your problem. all you can do is give him reassurance but he’s got to stop subtly shaming you for being your own person

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4w

The fact that you said let is so concerning you’re a whole ass adult

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