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I need opinions bc this is driving me insane, it’s intentional and she’s denying it, and my mom spent $100 on these kitchen sets they stole things from. I don’t want to get police involved like RSM said, I just want my shit back or rebought
Is it crazy to email my one of my roommates’ parents asking if they’re aware their daughter and her guests have messed with my belongings all semester, and now multiple kitchen things of mine are GONE when she’s secretly moving out? (found out online)
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Don’t do it
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Anonymous 4w

$100 isn’t worth the time, stress, or legal costs to go beyond the roommate. I’d pick up a shift to recoup the cost and call it a day. Opportunity cost

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Anonymous 4w

I say do it and definitely tell them that the reason you’re contacting them is to avoid police involvement. Bonus points if they’re paying for the roommate in any way.

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Anonymous 4w

I’m gonna be fr with you, there’s a very solid chance her parents know her behavior and do not care. Your options are file a police report/affidavit for the stolen items make a talley of exactly what is missing and add up the cost, if it’s over a certain amount it can be a felony or just cut your losses and let her leave and be out of your life.

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Anonymous 4w

Yeah if she’s like that, it’s because her parents raised her to be like that. Don’t expect them to have an impact. Personally I’m petty enough to steal her shit too and put the moldy food in her room

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Anonymous 4w

talk to your roommate first and if they refuse to send the money ig yeah you can contact the parents asking to be reimbursed so you don’t have to get the law involved

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 4w

She completely denied it over text multiple times and then again to my face. Then she suggested maybe someone broke in on a night in December I was wide awake late (like always) and know no one did, bc I’d hear it!

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 4w

If they’re young enough and the parents are paying I would involve them

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Anonymous replying to -> amethyst_popping_bottles 4w

If she’s suggesting there was a break in call her bluff and say “okay then let’s go to the police station and file a report”.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 4w

The thing is it’s been a semester long of my family bleeding money to buy things for me for our apartment, that they didn’t expect to bc of her intentional mean petty acts. And it’s also the fact her and her friends trashed the place and harassed me in my own apartment all semester long. And the rent for our apartment is too high for this behavior and bs

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4w

Sounds like you already know what your plan is. I don’t have the whole story; you do.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4w

Then get the police involved. She thinks shits funny so let’s all have a laugh 🤷🏽‍♀️ idc how if it’s $3 or $100 stealing is still stealing and if she wanted to be a bitch then get your stuff back.

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 4w

Honestly rope the friends in at this point cause I wouldn’t be surprised if they’re involved too if they’ve trashed the house multiple times. If OP is lucky one of them will have enough common sense to realize this petty shit isn’t worth a criminal record and rat everyone else out.

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Anonymous replying to -> amethyst_popping_bottles 4w

Yeah it might be her bf or a friend with her doing it. I’m pretty sure it happened when she had company over some time in December (probably out of retaliation towards me after she received a final warning notice before eviction bc she threw another party). I keep thinking back to a few weeks ago how I was up at 2am even questioning if they were touching my dishes on their last night here when drunk bc it sounded like it for a sec. Losing my mind over this😭

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4w

Yeah if you can get ahold of any of their contact info I’d tell them if someone doesn’t return your stuff soon this is all going to the cops.

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 4w

Literally bc i don’t want to let this shit slide. She laughs about all her disrespectful and gross behavior hiding behind texts, and lies about cleaning up after herself. She literally just hates me bc I ask her to respect the common areas for all of us, and my other roommates are too scared to speak up. And after moving in first in August, finding she left the fridge open all summer, full of moldy food and dead flies, leaving me responsible to get it fixed?? Nothing is funny. At all.

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 4w

That’s why I said mention they were the last attempt to get the stuff back before police intervention. Even if they’re the reason she acts like that they can still be spooked enough by cops to call their daughter up and tell her to put it all back before they have to get a lawyer.

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Anonymous replying to -> amethyst_popping_bottles 4w

My mom is refusing to be the one to call her mom and help me with this, telling me to let it go unless it continues( wtf fuck that) Should I call her mom’s work number I found online myself? Or email her mom’s work email? I’m so scared, but I just looked back at photos of our kitchen I’ve taken, and can literally see shit went missing within the last few days she lived here in December🤬

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4w

Do the email for record keeping purposes and see if you can at least dm the friends through social media.

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