Anonymous OP 1w

Talk to him and if needed go to couples counseling

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Anonymous #1 1w

we’re literally still in college we’re not gonna go to couples counseling 😭😭

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Anonymous hooters 1w

thank you :( i’m giving him space bc i know if i try to talk it’ll make it worse but today is a special day and he’s not talking to me at all and it sucks. this isn’t a common occurance

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Anonymous OP 1w

i would say something tbh, even if he's mad and ur mad that's doesn't mean yalls special day has to go unmentioned! yall can be mad as hell with eachother and still send a begrudging "happy bday" or what have u 🙂‍↕️ u can always text and say something like "i know we're fighting rn and I want to respect u and still give u ur space, but i wanted to say happy bday" for example

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Anonymous hooters 1w

and who knows, maybe reaching out like that might give u the opening u need to talk about the issue or if he reacts a certain way thats a little like "wtf" or a red flag itll still give u an answer on yalls relationship and how much the argument is affecting it u know?

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Anonymous hooters 1w

i already did sent him a text but he didn’t reply 😭 so really all i can do is wait i’m just hurt though

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Anonymous OP 1w

damn im sorry girl :( i hope he replies soon

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Anonymous hooters 1w

yeah me too! part of me is like so lost on how this is gonna play out and i feel like im gonna be resentful for a while, i hope not though

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Anonymous OP 1w

i get that 🙂‍↕️ but i mean if you've been having a good time up till this argument, what is there to regret u know? shit happens, ppl disagree sometimes 🤷‍♀️ thats life u know

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so i have an anxious attachment style due to childhood trauma. i am in personal therapy for my own reasons. my world isn’t ending, im just sad and in general i deal with sadness by freezing. i think our relationship will last, this is just a difficult time. also, we rarely ever have fights like this. i’m gonna be honest i find your comment to be a bit condescending and i don’t necessarily blame you because you don’t know me or us and it’s easy to assume the absolute worst on the internet, but

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Anonymous OP 1w

this wasn’t very helpful

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Anonymous hooters 1w

yeah, i also know i have a very particular idea of how things should go which i get caught up on, i attach a lot of importance to days like this and celebrating ON the day so missing it feels like a stain on the relationship i guess? i mean he is def in the wrong rn but i hope we’ll be able to talk and get through it and i can be a bit more rational about it with time

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Anonymous OP 1w

from one anxious attachment girly to another it sounds like you're honestly handling it all really well despite it being painful for u ✋😭 like to be so honest, im the same where i'll freeze and withdraw like crazy if i have an argument with someone, like if I was in ur position i dont think id be able to be as mature about it as ur being

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Anonymous OP 1w

im rooting for yall fr fr 🙂‍↕️🙏

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Anonymous hooters 1w

aw lmao thank you! i am very self aware about this and have been in far worse situations so comparatively this isn’t that bad, ig it’s really practice makes perfect with handling it😭 it does suck but my rational mind is fighting tooth and nail rn. honestly u saying this made me realize how well im doing compared to how i used to be so thank u, at least i can be proud of myself for this :)

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Anonymous OP 1w

as you should be queen 🙂‍↕️🙂‍↕️🙂‍↕️

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