What the actual fuck. Did you find this dude after he crawled from the pits of hell??

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1. He lied for the guy who SA’d me even after he knew that happened bc he thought that guy was cool and also bc that guy said if I knew the truth I’d cut him off (accurate) and I needed him to take care of me and if he didn’t then my best friend would have to (best friend didn’t want to) which I only needed bc I was fucked up over the SA

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10. Calls me his fav person (probably bc I’m also an alcoholic and we’re mutual enablers and I’m manic-leaning bipolar so nobody can party as hard) even though he has a literal child

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I KNOW that this shit reflects horribly on me and I don’t care. Let me be a cautionary tale. I just need to write this somewhere or do what it takes to make me cut him off

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Girl he straight up hates you how is this your best friend

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6. Consistently thinks players, fuckboys, and even abusers are cool, overlooks bad behavior of other men constantly

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Start fresh, PLEASE this is so much shit for someone to deal with and it’s not worth it!!! Find a new set of friends!!!

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13. Justifies all this shit constantly by saying he was blackout drunk (I believe him but does it make it better??)

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2. Touched me sexually while he thought I was asleep even though he knew I had trauma from sexually non consensual stuff while unconscious

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3. Claims to have been blackout drunk for #2 and is also blackout drunk often and uses this to justify a lot of shit

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4. Will drive me in his car while blackout drunk and lies about it

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5. Cheats on & lied to at least one gf and I only know about it bc they broke up in front of me in MY car for four hours while I was stuck in the driver’s seat in a bad neighborhood with nowhere to go and I’d be completely unshocked if this were a pattern

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7. Has to know someone for a LONG time and clearly see their value to him before even beginning to experience empathy for them

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8. Encourages me to stay in constant with the guy from #1 even though he knows I’m only doing it as a trauma response and it’s trashing my mental health/sense of self/life generally - justification - for my “sexual health” like wtf

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9. Wouldn’t be shocked if #8 was so he could resume his friendship with that guy bc he misses him and how fun he was to party with

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11. Had sex with a girl I was starting to be friends with on my couch the other day after I was roofied and in the other room and, worse, set up my security cam (that I only have bc the guy from #1 stole my house key) w/o the girl’s knowledge/consent even tho he knows it records/saves footage where the sex was visible

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12. Tried to take off my clothes after I was roofied and only stopped bc that girl made him stop - he said it was bc there was vomit on him & he wanted me to be comfortable but that girl was there & could have done it and BOUNDARIES

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I’d rather cut off the guy from #1 than my best friend if I had to chose but at least I already knew I should before tonight and all this shit about my best friend just hit me like a truck so

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