
donutfairy
Always a lot of hate on my posts but they always go trending 😭 idk why yall get so mad when an afab gets passionate about making this community better for minorities :/Idk I feel weird bc I’ve grown up in a very patriarchal surroundings and all my spaces have been very white male centered & then it’s like I’ve just found myself to be a lot different so it’s like I’m very much used to to making crass jokes at the expense of others or myself and not really caring but now for I’ve found myself being more sensitive to these things. It’s some people’s spaces where I feel like they can be themselves but I feel like public chats should be treated like public spaces.
Maybe I just find it annoying my whole life I’ve had to hid who I am physically when playing video games to protect myself from harassment? And it’s just getting worse and I haven’t seen any improvement?? I’m not standing up for anything except wanting to make video games safter for myself because I have a vagina and get sexualized or hated on immediately it only takes ONE person in the lobby to ruin it
Uhhhh no let’s not muddy the waters for sexual harassment here. That’s a very serious crime that already goes unchecked way too often as it is. Being verbally harassed, while still shitty and wrong, is not the same thing as actual sexual harassment. Let’s stop that right there
It’s definitely something I try to confront but at the same time it’s annoying to have a space that’s online that feels normal and homogenous to your thinking and then it’s like taken away from you because it should be more inclusive like everything else. But idk I feel you because I just kinda feel bad and it’s something I see now all the time. Feminine presenting people just go through all this shit that I never dealt with. And now I see the consistent scrutiny too
Sexual harassment is also a large umbrella and includes verbal! When guys tell me they are going to stick there dicks in my mouth so I stop making call outs- that’s sexual harassment and real things I’ve experienced. You saying I only act like a victim, but I haven’t gone a session using voice in the games I like without at least being immediately hit on by a stranger which I also find as a problem because the ONLY thing they know about me is games and vagina
I haven’t seen your posts nor are they on your profile but I think you should still voice them if you are comfortable too. All people should at least be comfortable to play video games in public spaces without harassment and prejudice and whatnot. As someone who has freaky names I had to retire one because one of my friends got way too much negative attention because she gets so many overweight jokes and it made me really sad that all they’d do is make fun of her even if she wasn’t in the lobby.
I really fully appreciate your perspective and voice it opened my mind a little to how you feel as well! But the gaming community shouldn’t be a safe space for misogyny and sexism anymore! So many young girls and afabs get groomed!!! And just everyone harassed in many ways if there isn’t a minority in the lobby- somebody else is gonna be the butt of the joke. I’m so happy you understand me and I hope you feel like I understand you as well!
I’m not talking about people telling me I’m bad at the game or regular jokes like that. I’m talking about sexism and sexual harassment! These are hate crimes not regular bullying I do not want learn to be okay with being harassed because of my sex every time I play video games. I really hope this makes since and I do try not to be sensitive but sexism is different!