Friend Advice on Sidechat | “You don’t owe anyone anything” is a lie. Yes you do. If you want friends and community you owe them your time, consideration, respect, and all the other things you’d want to receive yourself. It’s a two way street.

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Friend Advice 4w

“You don’t owe anyone anything” is a lie. Yes you do. If you want friends and community you owe them your time, consideration, respect, and all the other things you’d want to receive yourself. It’s a two way street.

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Anonymous 4w

Say it louder for the men in the back

Anonymous 4w

PREACH

Anonymous 4w

i once got bitched out by a best friends ex gf because i was told she “didn’t owe me anything” when all i wanted was to talk

Anonymous 4w

You completely missed the point of that saying. You just looked for something to correct someone on.

Anonymous

#3 4w

OP was completely correct

Anonymous

#2 4w

They brought in a completely new direction that isn’t meant by the saying. Obviously living in society requires you to give things to get. That’s a given. They completely missed the entire point.

Anonymous

#3 4w

I didn’t. I know the saying was originally about people protecting themselves from others taking advantage of them or pouring from an empty cup. I agree you don’t owe people your constant time and energy in that sense. But that is NOT the only way a lot of people use that phrase now. Some do it to avoid uncomfortable conversations, naming their faults in a situation, or doing things for other people in the same way they expect to have done. That’s the use the post is calling out.