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How do I calmly and maturely communicate to my friend that it feels like they’re condescending and talking down to me, even if they aren’t meaning to? Help!
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Anonymous 1d

Deal with it as it comes up. If they say something condescending tell them it felt condescending. This way you don’t have to have a talk or make it too serious.

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Anonymous 1d

My big advice is just don’t make it accusatory? People tend to get really defensive, even if in a more logical state they’d see where your coming from and apologize Give it the “hey, I know you don’t mean to, but sometimes it feels like you talk down to me when …”

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Anonymous 1d

We’ll talk to them & explain how it makes u feel when u they talk down to you. If they can’t listen & accept what you’re saying then they aren’t your true friends in the first place.

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Anonymous 1d

Shove a finger or two down there and sign language your way out of their mouth

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Anonymous 14m

Next time they say something condescending, say “dang bro, that sounded condescending”

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1d

I don’t know how to do that..? Like. Do you have any tips on how to articulate the thought? Sorry but I’m autistic so I like to have a rough mental map of how a conversation will go before I have it. I’ve also never really had any serious friend disagreements before so I’m not sure how to navigate this cuz I definitely want to be their friend still!! I just. I feel hurt and angry and stressed and it’s mostly not their fault but it definitely isn’t helping right now

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

Ah gotcha. What bout writing your thoughts on paper then reading it out loud or do a video & sent it your friend if u can’t tell them face to face.

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