Anonymous #1 1w

What do you mean *

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Anonymous #1 1w

So many people I know just never go out anymore, just to stay at home and do nothing. Like yeah obviously stay home if you’re tired, but sometimes you have to do things for your friends to maintain those friendships. One of my best friends of the past five years is consistently “choosing peace” by never hanging out with anyone, and it just feels so normalized especially because no one else sees a problem with it.

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Anonymous OP 1w

I 10000% understand self care nights, and I have those too, but to constantly flake on your friends because of that is crazy to me tbh

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Anonymous OP 1w

are they flaking or are they staying home? big difference

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Anonymous OP 1w

And honestly I’ve just been seeing it happen so much more lately, like my friend group used to hang out every single week. I know that’s not realistic at all as we get older, but genuinely it’s been over two years since we’ve all been together. Everyone always cancels because they’re tired or just don’t feel like hanging out, but respectfully sometimes you have to just do it anyways if you actually want to maintain a friendship with someone.

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Anonymous #2 1w

Depends, a lot of the time we’ll have plans and they’ll wait until the day of to flake. Most of the time it’s to just stay home

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Anonymous OP 1w

that's shitty then, no question

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Anonymous #2 1w

Yeah, but I feel like it’s so normalized now with self care culture. Obviously it’s super important to prioritize yourself, but to have that be a reason you neglect your friendships is kinda crazy

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Anonymous OP 1w

maybe they don’t want to be friends anymore simple

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Anonymous #3 1w

Yeah but then why wouldn’t they just communicate that? What’s the point of making plans just to cancel them every time?

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