Anonymous #1 23h

i am worried that he will think it is in a romantic way if i do this because i am queer (it is in an entirely platonic way)

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Anonymous OP 20h

If there’s any other people from the class you’d want to bring ask them to go too

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Anonymous OP 18h

Tell him your friend and you are gonna hang out somewhere and ask if he wants to join then tell him the other person canceled and see if he still wants to maybe? 😭

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Anonymous #2 16h

i'll try that! our semester is pretty much over, but we'll probably have some classes together next year. i think we're going to be living fairly close to each other too (finally off campus yay) so maybe i'll ask him if he wants to walk to class or into town to hang or something. we both are music majors so we can talk about that, i know he likes the gym and video games. im not a gamer but maybe ill learn!!

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Anonymous #4 16h

this is a good point. i'm usually a big fan of direct communication, just feeling a bit awkward, so i appreciate the reminder

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Anonymous #5 16h

true...then i can make so many friends (lol)

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Anonymous #6 16h

I like your funny mind games magic man (I may do this but I also may just try being more direct)

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Anonymous #7 15h

i'm really bad at not flirting apparently. i'm just kind of an awkward and excitable person and i think a lot of ppl tend to take it that way. BUT, i think that's a good idea. just being able to say "oh no i didn't mean it that way, i just want to get to be closer friends"

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Anonymous #8 15h

this is so cute 🥹 i admire your confidence and straightforward attitude!!

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Anonymous OP 15h

hell yeah! talking about a shared major is normally a great way to connect with someone. Another tip, though: try talking about the specific topics you liked and why rather than talking about specific classes. saying why you enjoy something (& how you engaged with it in your personal time, if you did) is a lot more compelling and reveals more about yourself than “I liked MU342, Advanced Music Composition” or smth. and if you have any stories to tell, that’s even better.

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Anonymous OP 15h

I feel you so hard on this.. I don’t think that I’m flirting I just like getting to know people and want people to feel seen in conversations.. I also feel like my awkwardness often gets viewed as flirtatious nervousness rather than legit just me being anxious and not wanting to be weird

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Anonymous OP 15h

You could also say smth simple like “I honestly just need more friends n thought you were cool! I’m sorry if it came off weird 😭😭” or smth along those lines

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Anonymous OP 11h

I get the worry though! Did that with a girl I wanted to be more than class friends with(I’m also a queer girl) Fast forward two years later and she’s one of my closest friends and we’ve had lots of fun hanging out!

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