Friend Advice on Sidechat | I’m a a girl, freshman in college and my bodycount is 5. I’m just asking if that’s considered high? I’m trying not to let peoples opinions affect me but I am afraid to be with anyone else because I don’t want it to go up more and people to judge me.

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Friend Advice 1w

I’m a a girl, freshman in college and my bodycount is 5. I’m just asking if that’s considered high? I’m trying not to let peoples opinions affect me but I am afraid to be with anyone else because I don’t want it to go up more and people to judge me.

Anonymous 1w

That comes down to what you are comfortable with, along with the risk attached to it. For a freshman of a typical age of 18, ya that is fairly high, but as well that doesn’t mean bad or anything honestly. I think what defines a person is more so important on their personal actions and how they treat others. Like namely a partner, if in a monogamous relationship, not cheating being the key part, but for any relationship of being kind, respectful, loving, supporting, and everything you would want

Anonymous 1w

19 almost 20 yr old sophomore in college here! My body count is around 5 or 6, most of them being meaningless hookups with dudes from dating apps plus one of my ex’s, a fwb thing I had with one of my guy friends, and my bf. Personally I don’t see a problem with someone having a high body count as long as you’re protecting yourself and getting tested. Like #1 said it’s your actions and how you treat ppl that defines you. Your body count doesn’t make you a bad person or any less worthy of respect

Anonymous 1w

I’m where you are rn. Not so much for other people caring but I myself like just don’t want more. Literally mine is higher than I ever thought it’d be personally so idk. Guys aren’t even judged over this but literally like I’m definitely gonna try to stay around where I’m at. Also I’m so scared of desensitization but can’t say if its like that for girls too

Anonymous 1w

never let anyone judge you for your number. you should be comfortable with it, and if your partner cares more than you and makes it an issue, they’re not the right one.

Anonymous 1w

Yeah kinda

Anonymous 1w

no 5 is reasonable/low

Anonymous 1w

There was a girl when I was a freshman who said she was well over 150+

Anonymous 1w

But she is in the loony bin now

Anonymous 1w

ASU?

Anonymous

#1 1w

them to be to you, is like way more important and says a lot more about a person. As, if someone is willing to treat the most significant person in their life poorly, why would they treat you better as a friend? But that is I think outside of what you were asking young homie.

Anonymous

#1 1w

I hope this did help at least to some degree, but like, feel free to reach out to ask any possible clarifications, or even ask follow things too

Anonymous

#1 1w

Follow up*

Anonymous

#1 1w

Okay I’ll follow up with, some of them were hookups. And now I feel like I can’t do that anymore bc it would just add meaningless numbers. Also, I am rly wanting to hook up with this guy. But then I’d have 6 yk? Ik it’s stupid to think deeply about the numbers and stuff but u get it

Anonymous

#2 1w

This. Most reasonable people won’t care as long as you’re safe and respectful

Anonymous

OP 1w

I get it, but if monogamy ain’t for you, or relationships, that’s fine homie. Just be safe and use protection

Anonymous

#7 1w

Exactly! In my experience, most guys don’t care about your body count. My boyfriend knows about my history but he doesn’t judge me for it because he loves me and respects the fact that i can make my own choices