Anonymous #2 2d

I’m not but like 😭why does he wanna pretend I am???

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Anonymous #6 2d

It’s ur dream for ur bf to basically tell you he wishes you had a dick :/

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Anonymous OP 2d

let’s not kink shame. if i wanted to try an4l would that mean i wished i was a dude? we’re young, it’s time to try things out before we get old and wrinkly

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Anonymous #6 2d

Girl, you have an a$s? You don’t have to wish to be anything to do that, I on the other hand, would have to wear a piece of plastic to compensate. Like what would I even get out of that. I’m not shaming him, it just felt like shit that he even asked, and now I’m doubting him

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Anonymous #8 2d

Not my intention at all, I didn’t even think this post could be considered homophobic. Just like what straight guy, which he says he is, wants his girl to wear a plastic dck?? I just feel like maybe I’m being tricked

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Anonymous OP 2d

It’s homophobic to reduce gay men to someone who just likes it up the ass. I am attracted to men, not just their cocks. The way they look, carry themselves, even smell. Your dude probably likes women if he’s with you, he just wants his g spot hit.

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Anonymous OP 2d

i’m just saying, people like/want to try different things. it doesn’t necessarily mean anything at all, def just overthinking. i prob would overthink too but as someone on the outside don’t let your anxiety get the better of you, it could actually mean nothing!! i’m sure ur a$$ is fantastic

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Anonymous #8 2d

Dude you’re reaching so far, I’m not saying any of that shit about anyone. I’m talking about one specific person, who I’m having PERSONAL doubts about and insecurities over. Im attracted to men, not just their bodies too, but wouldn’t it be weird if I had him wear like fake boobs or somthing. To me that’s what it feels like

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Anonymous #8 2d

that’s a little far, it’s fair for her to feel insecure or like she’s not doing enough.

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Anonymous #6 2d

Yes, thank you, that’s basically what i feel like

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Anonymous OP 2d

You have personal doubts so you take it to an anonymous message board with zero details for advice? You just wanted others to pile on so you feel more validated. From the information you gave, simply wanting to be pegged does not make him gay. If you are having this much trouble with it I’d suggest talking to him and saying that’s beyond what you are comfortable with

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Anonymous #8 2d

But i can’t talk to anyone i know without being ridiculed for this, and I don’t even know how to randomly bring this up with him again, I just needed a place to vent and ask people if maybe they had any insight, I don’t know why you’re angry with me :/

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Anonymous #6 2d

He expressed a common sexual preference so she came to social media to call him gay. That’s a little far.

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Anonymous #8 2d

This isn’t common for me, I was kinda shocked he asked. It’s also anonymous, so not really social media

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Anonymous #8 2d

Wait but do you really think it’s a preference, and he’d prefer that over just being with me

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Anonymous OP 2d

Girl the only fucking context you gave was that he asked you to peg him. Your “venting” was a single sentence. If you had added on that he has trouble getting it up, or that he doesn’t give you the time of day, or doesn’t look at your body then that would be adequate proof for speculation. You just brought up pegging, which is a current trend among straight guys. I am angry because the way you went about this if it was in good spirit.

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Anonymous #8 2d

How would I know that pegging is a trend?? All I knew is that he asked me to wear a make believe dck. It seems so random for you to be angry over this

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Anonymous OP 2d

It’s no different than if you wanted to use handcuffs. He wants some chocolate syrup on his ice cream. Does that mean he doesn’t like ice cream? No. Does that mean he will turn away ice cream without chocolate syrup? No. He just wants his sex a little spicier.

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Anonymous OP 2d

Because guys wanting to be pegged is like half the internet and has been for like 2 years now. This is living under a rock shit.

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Anonymous #8 2d

Whattttt? No I haven’t seen men expressing their desires to be pegged, maybe I’m just not looking at that stuff…

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Anonymous #8 2d

It feels very different than somthing like that, it feels very much that he doesn’t actually like ice cream, and would rather just have chocolate.

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Anonymous OP 2d

Prostate stimulation goes pretty crazy for guys, maybe he’s a closeted bisexual and he needs an outlet for his gay energy?

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Anonymous OP 2d

What makes you think he doesn’t like you? Beyond wanting to be pegged, what does he do to make you feel unappreciated in the bedroom? Is he not going down on you or touching you? Does he not initiate? Does he not like kissing you on the lips? Does he not like touching your boobs?

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Anonymous OP 2d

You’d be giving him pleasure, if you like male moans you’re gonna hear them louder than you ever have before if you peg him

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Anonymous #10 2d

But wouldn’t that just mean he likes it more?? If he feels more pleasure like that then what can I even offer at that point

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Anonymous #10 2d

That’s what you would be getting out of that

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Anonymous #10 2d

I’d get confirmation my body needs modifications to give him the most pleasure, yay 🫩

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Anonymous OP 2d

So if he asked you to wear a certain set of lingerie you would feel like you weren’t enough naked?

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Anonymous #8 2d

This is so so different. This is like asking him to wear fake boobs or something, this isn’t like clothes or handcuffs or whatever, he wants me to pretend I have parts I don’t actually have. We’ve barely done anything together, why would he want this of all things so quickly

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Anonymous OP 1d

It’s really, really not. He doesn’t need false tits to hit your g spot. It’s an accessory. It’s extra. It’s guacamole on his burrito bowl. You are making wide reaching inferences about his sexuality based on something that is so common it can’t even really be called a kink. If you want to be more involved, ask if you fingering him would fill the same need. If someone asks to be choked I don’t assume they want to go out with a serial strangler.

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Anonymous OP 1d

Adding on, do you think that just liking tits makes someone into women? I know plenty of gay guys who wouldn’t go near a woman sexually but enjoy some good boobage. I’ve personally never seen the appeal, but I also know plenty of straight girls who love cleavage. That doesn’t mean they want to take the next train to scissor city, that just means they like booba. It may not be for you, and that’s ok.

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Anonymous #8 1d

Look, I just don’t agree with you here. It feels like he wants somthing that I can’t naturally do before we’ve even been intimate like that. I don’t know who you guys are talking to or what you’re looking at, but never in my life have I seen or had a straight guy asked to be pegged. I’ve only ever heard them adamantly refuse. I don’t know, it just feels like I’m not enough

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Anonymous #8 1d

Sorry this point is gonna lost on me? I don’t like women so I don’t like boobs. My gay friends don’t like women, so they don’t like boobs. If someone’s aroused by boobs, then I think they’re into boobs

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Anonymous #8 1d

Yeah man we haven’t had sex yet so I don’t know why he’s asking for this

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Anonymous OP 1d

Your sexual insecurities don’t change his sexual orientation. Frankly if he was closeted he would have bought a dildo and tried it in secret, not asked his female partner to use a strap. There is nothing you can do but talk to him and tell him that you are clearly uncomfortable. Asking the internet to call him gay just tells me that it’s probably already over in your eyes.

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Anonymous #8 1d

No I like him, but yeah I’m obviously an insecure person. I’m not asking for anything. I’ve just never had a man want to be the one taking it 😭

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Anonymous OP 1d

You don’t like women AND you don’t like boobs. Not “so”. Humanity is a broad spectrum, people of all sorts like all sorts. I’m done explaining the same thing 50 different times. You are vanilla. It is perfectly fine to be vanilla. Just tell him, or break up with him so someone who won’t speculate about his lust for men can have the honor of digging in his butt, twin. It is weird that he would bring up any sexual preferences before you had vanilla sex, but that’s more of a boundaries issue

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Anonymous #8 1d

Idk if im vanilla I just don’t wanna peg him😵

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Anonymous OP 1d

Boundaries are ok, you just need to express them in a healthy way. Calling him gay is not a healthy way to express this boundary. If you need help I can write you an example of what to say.

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Anonymous #8 1d

I don’t need you to do that, I was just asking others what they thought and how they’d feel if a guy wants to be pegged before doing anything else

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Anonymous OP 1d

No you asked “is he gay if he asked me to peg him” with the “but I can’t prove it” meme attached. All other info had to be all but waterboarded out of you. If you hadn’t made up your mind before posting you wouldn’t only be interacting with the people saying no.

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Anonymous #8 1d

well, I was suspecting he was gay when I posted, what would replying to people saying he is do for me when I don’t want them to be right. I only keep responding to you bc I’m hoping you can convince me he’s not. And then for some reason we kinda started fighting

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Anonymous OP 1d

We are fighting because I took issue with how you went about this. If you want me to convince you he is straight I can’t because I don’t know him. What I can tell you is that if he was closeted he wouldn’t be asking you to peg him. The very fact that he asked YOU to do it is proof enough for me. A straight guy asking to be pegged shows he is secure in his sexuality more than anything tbh, closeted men don’t let anyone near their butts for fear of being perceived as gay.

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Anonymous OP 1d

Then he trusted you with something personal. Something that he could be made fun of for or have held against him. And what did you do? Imply he’s gay online and hold it against him. Girl I’m not saying you’re evil or homophobic, I’m just saying please think. If I wanna be on top of my man, does that make me a lesbian? Cmon

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Anonymous #14 1d

But why does he wants somthing only a man can give him, that was the conundrum. However youre late to the party and these points have been made. I was hurt that he didn’t want our first time to involve my body without the addition of somthing I don’t actually have

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Anonymous OP 1d

Okay I take it back I still think it was tasteless but if you’re offline and (presumably sorry) not adventurous sexually I understand how it can be off putting. I promise that doesn’t make him gay in the same was that having sensitive nipples wouldn’t or being a dominant woman don’t. If it makes you uncomfortable, DONT DO IT. Sex is supposed to be enjoyable for both parties

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Anonymous #14 1d

I don’t see why some ppl are upset I made an **anonymous** post, I needed some help, there’s no one I can talk about this with in person. I’ve never been intimate with someone, which he knows, so it’s not even about him not being dominant or whatever isn’t typically seen as “manly”. It’s about me and my body and wanting someone to want me as I am at least once. Why does he want me to have an add on, I wouldn’t mind if he was sensitive or submissive, but why can’t he just want me how I am😔

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Anonymous OP 1d

Lmaoooo the issue is that you were calling him gay! Your problem is that you are a virgin and are not comfortable with it, the virgin part you only mention now! Just say those words to him and the problem will probably disappear! Everything you have said was as vague as possible and you were mildly homophobic throughout the process but we got there eventually. He likes you, he wants you, just tell him he can’t have you in that way. That simple. No need to question his sexuality.

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Anonymous #8 1d

How does questioning someone’s sexuality make me homophobic? sorry for doubting him bc the boy I like wants a dck up his ass, like damn I never said being gay is just about sex, but when a guy wants to do somthing that literally mirrors homosexual intercourse, what am I supposed to think??

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Anonymous #8 1d

And plus he knows I’m a virgin, he is too

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Anonymous #8 1d

Stop getting offended lil bro. Get some T in your blood

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Anonymous OP 1d

OP dudes like that aren't worth it

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Anonymous #17 1d

Thank you, I don’t know why people are personally getting offended by my own nightmare scenario

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Anonymous #18 1d

But like why does he want to pretend I’m a man?

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Anonymous OP 1d

He doesn’t?

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Anonymous #18 1d

Then why would he want me to wear a plastic dck before we’ve ever even been intimate

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Anonymous OP 1d

Bro wtf is wrong with you. Many ppl have told you why he is not gay but you keep arguing with them so they agree with you. You don’t want to know if hes gay or not you js want to be right. He wants to get pegged if you dont want to peg him dont. And tell him that. You are a woman, he wants to have sex with you. There are many different ways to have sex. He doesn’t want to pretend ur a man. He js wants you to fuck him. COMMUNICATE with this man or fuck off omfg, how old are you😟

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Anonymous OP 1d

You prob think lesbians aren’t actually lesbian if they use straps 🙄

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Anonymous #18 1d

Exactly, she is sound so fucking homophobic rn

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Anonymous #18 1d

That’s different I would never speak ill of lesbians

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Anonymous OP 1d

How is it different?

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Anonymous #18 1d

My quarrel is with him, as an individual, not with the intricacies of queer intimacy.

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Anonymous OP 1d

But ur calling him gay for wanting to get pegged??

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Anonymous #19 1d

I suppose I didn’t know how common this was, I’ve been told that straight guys apparently like that in this thread. But it’s this desire coupled with other factors, like we haven’t been intimate yet but he wants to do this first for example. We’re both virgins, so if feels like he’s looking for something I can’t give

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Anonymous OP 1d

Just fucking say that to him then. He’s YOUR bf, even if it wasn’t common so what?? Jesus, js fucking talk to him??

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Anonymous #19 1d

Yes, that’s the plan, but I wanted to see if I was going crazy or not with this. I wasn’t trying to argue with people, but instead i wanted to see if their opinions changed with more context.

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Anonymous OP 1d

Please, you js wanted ppl to agree with you🤨. And this post brought some homophobic ppl here so good job. But wtv.

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Anonymous #19 1d

Nahh id hate if he actually gay. And How is that my fault 😭 welcome to the internet bro where assholes run wild, you don’t have to even comment on this post, now you’re getting tight for no reason

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Anonymous OP 1d

No I was js reading you responding to others and you sound like a dick. And someone alr explained how you saying “is he gay if he asked me to peg him” with the doakes meme makes you look. Anyways hope it works out for ya

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Anonymous #19 1d

It was a genuine question, which I will admit, fueled by insecurities. I think it’s silly for people to read that and assume I think all gay people are only interested in sex. This is about one person, who seems uninterested in my actual body. Some people were very helpful in soothing my worries, others made me more upset. Though I wasn’t expecting people to turn this into something personally against them

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Anonymous #15 1d

….yeah? also i’m female so like, Im not even speaking from experience lmao. i just paid attention in 9th grade health

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Anonymous OP 1d

Valid

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Anonymous OP 1d

Of you're actually requesting guidance... He will not chance that behavior most likely. So if it is something that you are against (because you're entitled to your own opinion and preference) then it may not be the best fit for you and he may not. But don't take random advice from people on the internet

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Anonymous #17 1d

Lmfaooo whatever Andrew Tate. Take your alpha male bs to someone who gives a fuck

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Anonymous #17 1d

“Get some t in your blood” I’ve already got my d in your dad idk how much more of the alphabet I can handle

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Anonymous #8 1d

Bro thought he could come back with a gay insult AND an insult to my family.😭😭 Just let me find out where you live

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Anonymous #17 23h

What insult? I am genuinely 8 deep in your dad as we speak and he is quite the moaner

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Anonymous #15 23h

Correct, next question

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Anonymous #17 23h

“Stop getting offended lil bro”

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