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So I have a friend group and one of my friends I recently found out is actually not a good a good friend. She has been treating my other two friends in a way that is not ok and goes against mu beliefs and values in how to treat friends. 1
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Anonymous 3w

She has hurt my other two friends in way I can not ignore. I also found out she doesn’t really even like me. Apparently she told this to my other friends and made it seem like she would talk to me to work it out but she never did and I was entirely oblivious to how she truly felt. One reason she gave was bc 2 years ago when we lived in the college dorms she feels I did not help with chores enough even tho I did every other week she just wanted to deep clean every week. 2

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

I never knew this was such an issue for her or an issue at all bc she never told me and instead of telling me she let it fester into sustain for me. She also said she does not like my questions. I ask a lot of random questions just things that pop into my mind that I thought was interesting. She has never expressed that this was something she felt was an issue ever. Me and my other friends decided for ourselves that we do not feel comfortable continuing this friendship with her. 3

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

The thing I need help with is that I not thinking about it posted something vague on my Instagram not just saying “that was enlightening” she has never asked or responded to my notes before but she asked me what that one was about. I was originally going to let the friendship kinda of die out on its own but this puts me in a spot where I either A ignore it and never respond but she will eventually reach out again to talk and then a conversation of her actions hurting me and my friends 4

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

Will end up happening or I approach her about it first and express my wanting to no longer be friends with her and give her the reasons if she asks for them and cause more issues between her me and her and my other two friends cuz it is impossible to tell her the reasons without them being pulled into it even more when they don’t want to talk to her. I feel like that text put me in a position where a conversation is inevitable. I just don’t know what route is the best and would appreciate help

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