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Maybe a hot take but you shouldn’t prioritize your partner over your friends in every single situation. My friend ditched me on my birthday because her bf wanted to hang out😭
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Anonymous 3d

Not at all a hot take. I’m in a committed relationship and would never ditch my friends for my boyfriend unless it was serious, let alone on their birthday. You need better friends babe

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Anonymous 2d

So true. I only get upset if my friends do something like that like if it’s something unimportant idc but I’ve been met with a lot of “boyfriends come before friends” so

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Anonymous 2d

I hope you stopped being friends with her…

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Anonymous 1d

I WISH I COULD SCREAM THIS FROM A ROOF TOP

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Anonymous 2d

no literally. i just got pushed to the side once again and im apparently overreacting for being hurt

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Anonymous 2d

I was saying the boyfriend shouldn’t have asked her to cancel on her friend. Especially in her birthday.

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Anonymous 2d

It’s give and take. Your friends and your bf have to be willing to share.

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 2d

I think it really just depends on the situation too though. There are a lot of different factors that could play into it.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 2d

It’s not about sharing it’s about consideration and respect. I’ve had friends tell me “my bfs busy so we can hangout!” Like that’s rude or constantly getting cancelled on for them. There has to be a balance

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 2d

I mean not really….im talking about friends who cancel plans with their friends constantly for their bf. Idk what scenario that’s okay unless the bf is going through something or it’s an important thing he needs her for

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 2d

I think the people doing it right have figured out how to balance friendships and relationships at the same time, sadly many people haven’t figured it out and throw their friends to the curb until they get broken up with

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 2d

exactly!! the only exception i can think of would be if the friends we’re talking about aren’t as close or if you don’t have the social energy to hang out with them. but even if they’re not a super close friend, i wouldn’t ditch them on their birthday of all times unless it’s an actual emergency

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 2d

It is sharing. You can’t demand 100% of a persons attention whenever you want it.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 2d

so you think it’s okay for someone to cancel on a friend on their birthday to appease their boyfriend? that’s how you lose friends.

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 2d

No I don’t.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 2d

and by your logic the boyfriend can’t demand 100% of his partners attention whenever he wants it

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 2d

clearly you do in some capacity or else you wouldn’t have made the comment

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 2d

Correct.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 2d

Did you even read my comment? Some people quite literally don’t try to hide that their friends are always 2nd to their boyfriend. I’ve had multiple friends only ask to hangout when their boyfriend is too busy or at work and they literally tell me they only have time for me when he’s at work.

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 1d

Of course I did

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 1d

Then you need better friends. However, your friends and your boyfriend should understand that they are both priorities in your life and both deserve time with you.

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