Honestly, I would work on yourself first if you think it will severely affect your relationships or what you want to get out of each relationship. I know my campus offers mental health support and counselling. Once you’re good on that front, go slow with new relationships.

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Self love is super important. Doing stuff for yourself and learning how to be comfortable with yourself beyond other people’s options is what can lay a good foundation. What’s worked for me though, someone who struggles a lot with getting close to people too, is practicing taking to people. Talk to a whole bunch of people and when they trauma dump (or share something) practice sharing something of your own. Don’t think of the big picture just yet, but focus on one person or sentence at a time.

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