Anonymous #2 1w

Hers as far as I know. She hasn’t even told me what I did. And I’ve tried to talk to her and she avoids me hardcore. Like genuinely hasn’t said a word to me in 4 days and we live together. I’ve texted her trying to talk and she said basically that it’s okay, she’s happy, and it’s all good. No real acknowledgement. I just need to still talk boundaries and to figure out how to coexist without hostility

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Anonymous OP 1w

Speaking from experience, let silence speak to your bond. She’s acknowledged it in a way if you think about it.

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Anonymous #1 1w

I know the friendship is over. I heavily value communication and she’s shown she cannot do that. I never want to be put in a situation like this again and she’s completely broken the trust of our friendship by ending it without a word. But we live together. I need to talk to her about establishing boundaries roommate wise. She’s alrdy broken multiple boundaries. Granted, we never fully established them. Our policy was we would talk any problems out and act with basic respect. She hasn’t been.

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Anonymous OP 1w

Like she’s broken the trust we had so bad I cannot fully trust my other friends because how did she switch up that quick? I’ve asked them all to promise to tell me if there’s problems because I do rly value my friendships. She was my best friend for 3 years tho. Probably the closest friendship I’ve ever had. And on a random Monday she decided she never wanted to talk to me again with no warning

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Anonymous OP 1w

I think this goes beyond broken boundaries, that’s what I mean by silence will speak to your bond. You sound like you care deeply for this person and can understand it was valuable enough to break. That being said, your peace beyond that unknown of coexisting without a relation is worth pursuing. You do whatever you need to do to make that peace possible, without expectations contrary to such.

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Anonymous #1 1w

Thank you. I’m looping in our RA to hopefully set up a time to talk with both her as a mediator and my roommate about what my roommate and me expect out of each other going forward.

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Anonymous OP 1w

You bet, don’t hesitate to fully express yourself

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Anonymous #1 1w

Apparently she’s moving out. So no talk needed. Really kinda sad about the rly childish way to end a friendship but oh well.

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