Anonymous #6 4w

Sex is varied. Some view it as sacred, some view it as just a thing we sometimes do. Some view it as both! Theres something sacred in the every day. I don’t think sex is inherently a vice

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Anonymous #4 4w

Sex itself is not a vice, and as stated, it’s a sacred, beautiful thing, but non marital sex derives from lust in every occasion, even if it isn’t the primary, but if you read OP’s post, going on a “hoe phase” isn’t virtuous. Also, moral relativism is BS. The view might be varied, but the truth of sex is sacred.

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Anonymous #6 4w

I agree moral relativism is bs but only the shit that’s actually harming people. Having casual protected sex does not harm anyone unless they a. View sex as something they can only enjoy with a close partner, so your definition of sacred I’m assuming, or b. Don’t even like sex. I need you to tell me without using the bible how casual protected sex harms people outside of the two reasons I just listed.

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Anonymous #6 4w

Like I think moral relativity can apply when people genuinely have different feelings on how something might affect them. Of course premarital sex is morally wrong to you if you don’t feel comfortable having sex before marriage. But your experience is not the only experience. Some people feel differently.

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Anonymous #4 4w

First off, I never claimed to be Christian (regardless if I am or aren’t) and I haven’t used the Bible at all. I believe that humans have a soul, and sex harms that soul if done in an illicit relationship. I also believe that in illicit relationships sex stems from a disordered attachment to either the act itself or the feelings attached or the attachment to the other person. Does that answer your question? No scripture, just beliefs.

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Anonymous #6 4w

I’m used to ppl with your beliefs being christian, apologies. I don’t think relationships with premarital sex are illicit, and if you truly believe it is always pathological you’re kind of victim blaming by calling it illicit. I’ve met people who are very capable of having casual sex without feelings or disordered attachment to the act. Though I do think those issues are more prevalent nowadays due to early pornography exposure, internet grooming, and loneliness. I could write an essay as to

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Anonymous #6 4w

Why but I think it gets away from my point, which is that theres nothing inherently wrong with sex under any context. It is not an inherent vice and i think you’re being disingenuous calling it one

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Anonymous #4 4w

Call me whatever you want, but I just feel that it is not something casual, and it should be taken more seriously. That being said, I think both of us have made our points, and I don’t think either of us are open to changing our views. I appreciate the discussion. God bless 🙏

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Anonymous #6 4w

I didn’t call you anything? But thank you I guess

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Anonymous #4 4w

I mean you said I was being disingenuous. That’s all I meant. No harm done

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Anonymous #6 4w

why do i get the vibe that you’re a dude with several bodies just trying to preach how a woman “ruins” her body with sex

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Anonymous #7 4w

I’m a virgin, and I am not trying to shame anyone. I’m sorry you interpreted it that way.

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Anonymous #6 4w

You called premarital sex “illicit” relationships.

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Anonymous #6 4w

“i’m sorry you interpreted it that way” is such an ick. just say “you interpreted it wrong” or don’t say sorry at all. that was fake and weird dude so you’re definitely a red flag

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Anonymous #7 4w

I think “i’m sorry I made you feel that way” is better in apologies. It takes ownership for making someone feel a certain way even if it wasn’t intended. That being said we’re total strangers on the internet i don’t think a perfectly worded apology is owed

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Anonymous #4 4w

i never said i was owed an apology. i said apologies like that are weird and fake. if you’re gonna say something like that, you might as well just not apologize.

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Anonymous #7 4w

Its a common wording mistake granted it usually comes from believing the situation is the fault of the other person OR they’re simply mimicking other apologies, the latter of which I don’t think is inherently bad because it’s good to try to use others as an example it’s just hard to find good examples. I’ve used that wording before finding better examples through ppl critiquing post cancellation apologies lol. Something to study

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Anonymous #8 3w

I personally think a 40 y/o can have a hoe phase if they’re not married/dating

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