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battybatbat

 Got invited to dinner with my fiancé’s parents, and it was all fine and good until the night ended with me literally running out of the house fearing for my safety after FIL scream-cursed me out for talking to MIL about an actor we both like
#theactorwasPaulSorvinoBTW
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Anonymous 1d

Luckily both fiancé AND MIL were like… ACTIVELY working to protect me until we were able to Leave The City but like. Jesus fucking Christ, dude. I kept saying “I’m sorry, I’m overwhelmed, I don’t feel safe, I’d like space” but he kept trying to get to me and my fiancé had to physically barricade himself between us. Just… FUCK, dude

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Anonymous 18h

has he ever acted like that towards or anyone before? it’s odd that he would start screaming and cussing at you for discussing an actor both you and your future MIL like

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Anonymous 1d

GRAB HIS DICK GRAB HIS DICK AND TWIIIIIIST

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Anonymous replying to -> battybatbat 1d

MIL has sent us several texts (we have a group chat of me+fiance+MIL) apologizing and saying that she’s not even talking to him rn because even SHE was fucking shocked when he started screaming and cursing me out. Fiancé also decided by himself that we won’t be visiting when his FIL is around for the foreseeable future

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Anonymous replying to -> battybatbat 1d

Idk I know this is dumb and I know this is a dumb place to vent but I KNOW I’m not going to be able to remember any of what happened in fucking. Just a few hours or so, so I guess I just want to try and get how I feel out there. I’m very thankful that both my fiance AND my MIL seem to be wholeheartedly on my side, but I’m genuinely terrified of my FIL still cuz I just… I’ve never been treated like that, and I’ve faced abuse from parents, partners, “friends”, AND strangers

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1d

THE OLDDDDDDDD DICK TWIST!!!!!!!!! (Honestly, I wouldn’t be surprised if MIL does something along those lines… she was PISSED at him)

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 18h

My fiance said FIL has acted that way with him before when he was a kid, but that it was FEW and far between to the point that he was completely caught off guard by it happening last night. I just… god. It was fucking terrifying idk

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Anonymous replying to -> battybatbat 17h

i dont know your FIL but as a someone who’s bipolar he doesn’t sound mentally well. boundaries need to be set until he seeks out the help he needs

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 16h

Bipolar actually runs in FIL’s family, and at least my fiance is fairly convinced that he has it but he’s been asked to see a dr and a therapist for years and still refuses :( Luckily my fiance (and I think MIL) are of the unchangeable opinion that me and him will NOT be visiting his parents if FIL is there, at least for the foreseeable future. I know my fiance is also planning on giving FIL a talking to once he decides to reach out

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Anonymous replying to -> battybatbat 15h

this is the absolute best way to go (aside from FIL refusing to seek out help). setting stern boundaries that you will absolutely not be seeing him until YOU feel comfortable and safe. my suggestion (which you absolutely dont have to take) is you (and maybe even your fiance) will NOT see FIL until he apologizes and shows improvement by seeking out help (therapy, meds, etc.). also not to sound rude but, is your FIL an addict? my aunt is bipolar and an alcoholic and would have random 1/2

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Anonymous replying to -> battybatbat 15h

2/2 outbursts (mean, nasty, screaming, calling ppl names, being hurtful) if she went too long without alcohol or cigarettes

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 15h

Oh I absolutely agree!!! Me and fiance have made the decision that I at least won’t be seeing FIL until *I personally feel safe*, and I know my fiance has decided to not visit FIL for a good long while even IF there’s an apology. I’m going to ask my fiance to mention therapy as a term/condition, but idk how far that’ll go :( I’m not sure honestly? I know my fiancé’s family does have a history of alcoholism but I’d never really picked up on FIL following that

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Anonymous replying to -> battybatbat 14h

period queen for setting those boundaries just make sure that he’s aware they are NOT flexible AT ALL also in my experience with substance abuse it’s verrrrrryyyyy easy to hide it when you want to hide it (functional alcoholics)

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 13h

I definitely will! The issue will largely end up being how MIL handles the boundary, she also has a history of super rapidly changing moods so she might be on our side 100% or she might eventually decide we’re “holding a grudge” or something That’s true. Honestly, I DO think there’s several issues going on (at least, that I know about) that could be contributing, but 90% of them could be solved and 100% could be eased if he just. Yknow. Sought+accepted help🫩

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Anonymous replying to -> battybatbat 13h

absolutely so many things could be fixed if your FIL sought out help but it’ll only work if he does what the therapist/psychiatrist/etc. says to do. if your MIL starts to become wishy-washy abt the boundaries, reinforce them and if she changes feelings then you’re going to have to set boundaries with her as well unfortunately 🫤

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