Anonymous #1 2w

Absolutely, I haven’t checked my yikyak but I’ll spill

1

Anonymous orange_motor_scooter 2w

Instead of putting her rent money into escrow, she just stopped playing it. I guess her duplex had mold and a few other problems she wanted fixed so she stopped paying her rent for months until it was fixed. But instead she got evicted and then instead of saving and finding a new place within months (this was after tax season where she normally gets about 5K because she has so many kids) she spent it on her friends kid! A friend that is not homeless who’s husband is not struggling at work

1

Anonymous OP 2w

Financially and are both decently well off. And instead she stays at my mother’s house after my mother said no because she knew my aunt would do this. She didn’t save a dime up but instead spends her money on so much stupid shit, and I had to FORCE HER to buy her kids school supplies and overspend for extra stuff so those kids had everything they could need for the whole year. I made the list from the schools websites and went with her so she didn’t have an excuse.

1

Anonymous OP 2w

And it’s not about the amount of people, it’s about her destroying the house and refusing to leave or help. She literally told my mom that she’d go live in a hotel before she paid her to help with the massive increase in bills. We now have mold crawling up our basement walls now and caked into carpets down there as well because of her, which I’m allergic to but I’m the only one who can clean it out correctly. And this has never an issue, even when we have flooding because we take care of it

1

Anonymous OP 2w

She moved in February and was told she needed to save and leave by June 1st because in July 1st was when I moved home to take care of my moms house (she travels a lot for work). She didn’t, she ignored my mother, stayed for 6 more months and said she leave by the 1st of this month (still isn’t gone)

1

Anonymous OP 2w

Where is the Dad of all the children? Seems like he could help. Sounds really hard and I’m sorry. Parenting that many kids would be really challenging and especially on your own.

1

Anonymous orange_motor_scooter 2w

She has 5 kids total, 4 baby dads. None of them do anything and half of them are not in the picture or any help. It’s been difficult and I love them, I do, but she’s one of those people who is a victim of her own actions and often does this type of stuff. She doesn’t take accountability for it and has put them in bad positions on multiple occasions even before the last two were born. I just can’t be nice anymore because she’s take advantage of the situation and lacks any real empathy

1

Anonymous orange_motor_scooter 2w

Towards what she’s doing to her kids and or us. Her oldest of 5 has been living with us for almost 5 years consecutively, and her 4th is going to be living with us until he graduates high school (in May). My mom even offered to house her 3rd oldest so she can finish high school in the area too. So it’s not like she doesn’t have the help but her kids are more of a paycheck and Facebook post for her so she won’t give any of them up, and her kids have said the same thing to me

1

Anonymous OP 2w

It sounds like your aunt deals with some serious mental health issues and you and your family are being kind. The fact you’re helping her kids is huge but I get that it’s not easy. What’s best for the kids is definitely what should happen. The Dad’s are just as much to blame. At least your aunt stays with her kids. It’s easy to blame her the most but it sounds like she is not well and hopefully she won’t have more children!!!

1

Anonymous orange_motor_scooter 2w

After the 5th one, my grandma took her to get her tubes tied and her last kid is in 5th grade. I want her to get help but this family doesn’t believe in help (which is stupid, all of her kids are mentally ill as well) the dads are all lowkey one of those things we just pretend don’t exist, since that’s how they treat their kids essentially. I just can’t help someone who is not willing to get help, but who is also tanking my mental health due to lack of boundaries and space

1