Just make the most rationally beneficial decision for your goals, you have a lot of responsibilities now

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And now they are trying to appease me with lots of praise, they didn’t give me when I was a kid. Telling me how great of a kid I am and how great my grades are (which is kind of true since I made Dean’s list last semester), and how great I turned out compared to all of my other classmates. My mom has gone from telling me that she would tell me good job on her death bed maybe, to saying she loves me (very un Chinese) and dad is starting to really praise me again and again.

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Dad keeps pushing me to go to Florida where I study as undergraduate to study for graduate school, but I want to go to one of the schools he considers woke (even though I’m not American conservative, I’m Confucian) or Tokyo Uni. because I want an Asian career.

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So essentially, I am the last adult standing in the family right now. And while I do get a vast amount of leverage, I never enjoyed as a child, heavy, laser head that wears the crown, at least in terms of managing two adults that are behaving like teenagers. Especially when they control the finances.

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On top of this, yesterday, they started arguing in the morning over nothing and then later dad vented to me about how bad California is where they live and how I should go to Florida and everything else sucks for college. And they wonder why I want to take up my many Japanese friends’ invitation to live in Japan— especially since I speak the language and grew up with the culture

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I am tired of them arguing, and I am tired of being used as a chess piece for their college battle because mom wants me to go to a good school while dad only wants me to go to Florida. I think I might really use the nuclear option and just go straight to Tokyo. Plus, most of my friends are there and we can go drinking after school every day, and I can eat as much takoyaki as I want

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