Family Rants on Sidechat | “You need to make your dad feel loved or else he’ll kill himself” I’ve KNOWN he was gonna go out by his own hand since I was like 12, why is it suddenly my job to prevent it???

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“You need to make your dad feel loved or else he’ll kill himself” I’ve KNOWN he was gonna go out by his own hand since I was like 12, why is it suddenly my job to prevent it???

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Anonymous 4w

his job is to love himself enough for you, not other way around

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Anonymous 4w

i battle myself w this thought all the time. my dad did some fucked shit to me when i was in high school. it’s a big reason why im here, on the other side of the country. had to get tf away. but the manipulation is so real, because he has no almost no one, and basically none of his kids talk to him anymore bc of his behavior. part of me feels so guilty because i truly believe he might end his own life someday. but it’s not my responsibility to come forward when he has never acknowledged the-

Anonymous 4w

I think your whole family needs intensive therapy

Anonymous

#5 4w

hurt he caused.

Anonymous

#5 4w

but i’ve been told similar, that i should just talk to him and whatever. it doesn’t feel right to do that, but i know if he ever did end his life, id feel immense guilt. AGH

Anonymous

#5 4w

Well if you tell him just what you told us and maybe throw in something more personal to him and you as well, I feel like those would all be totally acceptable things to say. You cannot control how he reacts but you can still make him feel loved with your honest words. <3

Anonymous

#5 4w

unfortunately most people don’t understand that it’s not the kids job to keep that relationship alive with the parent. you never asked to be on this earth, but here you are. your parents should have been there for you, not the other way around. idk why it’s always up to the kid to make it work 😒

Anonymous

#6 4w

i kinda disagree. there’s a reason they cut off their dad in the first place. they said that he did fucked up shit to them and was manipulative. the chances of him still being manipulative now if they were to crawl back into his life is high

Anonymous

#8 4w

dump time. so, i was in a car accident when i was in high school. he made a go fund me, which i told him i didn’t want, because i lived in a poverty stricken area. he proceeded to take all the money to buy a rifle, a new driveway, AC unit, and god knows wtf else. i confronted him about it, and he then proceeded to just say “i didn’t love him”. i ended up getting on the homecoming court and usually you walk with your parents, but i asked my older sister instead who was in the accident with me-

Anonymous

#5 4w

after that, he said that proved i didn’t love him and i had 24 hours to get out or to be placed as a child of the court (basically foster care)… i was 17 and had just had a life altering injury to my face that can never be fixed or replaced. so i stayed at a friends for weeks and ultimately i never fixed things with him and graduated and got tf out of there.

Anonymous

#5 4w

that’s the short of it. my parents are divorced and lived in different states at the time. my mom had handled all the medical bills, taking care of me, surgeries, sold her car to get me one to accommodate my new needs, yadda yadda. my dad helped with nothing. yet benefited off my loss… idk. everyone is different and i can see where you’re coming from to try and talk to him, but as a child, that only makes us feel worse because it is NOT our responsibility.