
it will turn into a bigger fight. i’m worried that if i saw all this they will feel really bad about themselves, realize how poor they did during my childhood and one of my points may even make them question their marriage. i know i have hid everything for so long so like why say it now. but i’m struggling big time. and i wrote a (short) list of a few of the reasons which takes up 3 pages of a google doc. so i need someone’s opinion. do i tell them knowing it may shift the dynamic of everything?