
my dad is the exact same way. This is rooted in misogyny, don’t listen to the comments telling you it’s not. My dad expects to have the whole house clean with dinner on the table by the time he comes home for work. He never cleans, never sets foot in the kitchen, expects to have every meal made for him, doesn’t do his own laundry, and sits all day after work watching youtube while we slave over a hot stove.
it’s not misogynistic to expect a woman to cook and clean all day when she has other shit she wants to do? to tie all her worth to her having dinner ready on the table and expecting her to be able to miraculously read your mind to know what you want? If this is a “normal dad”, men need to be better. This is exhausting.
he won’t ever even tell us what he wants to eat, he just expects us to guess what he wants every time and will be really mad if we make him something he doesn’t like. I haven’t seen him cook since i was about six, and i remember thinking I didn’t even know boys could cook. I didn’t even think that was an option because I had never seen it.
My little brother was also highly discouraged by my dad from helping my mom and my sisters and I in the kitchen or while cleaning, being told it was a woman’s job. and now he struggles with basic life skills like doing dishes, making dinner besides box Mac n cheese, and general cleaning. Patriarchy hurts men too. Sorry for the long comments, I think it’s a pretty common situation unfortunately. 🫶
yeah maybe that’s not the worst thing in the world, but you can see how that would be really fucking annoying when the work you’ve been doing all day isn’t taken as seriously since it was done at home. Also, you picked THAT sentence out of everything else I said, maybe you just don’t have the ability to read? Did you read the part where I said he does absolutely nothing and yells at us if we get something wrong? How he believes women belong inside?
My dad has come home from work and thrown chairs, drawers, etc around because he’s mad about dinner. Not at us but close. He’s screamed until he’s red in the face because he didn’t like how his asparagus was cooked. Is that not misogyny? Should we have to put up with that? Is that “normal dad” stuff like you said in your other comment?