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Family Rants 16w
my mother everybody!!
917 upvotes, 63 comments. Sidechat image post by Anonymous in Family Rants. "my mother everybody!!"
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Anonymous 16w

Man I feel that, mines forcing me to call her literally every day even though there’s literally nothing to talk about and I didn’t for two days and she proceeded to say that I don’t care about “family time” and she’s she’s “provided” everything for me she threatens to take it all away if I don’t comply to whatever she wants. Like let your kid be their own person for once 🙄

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Anonymous 16w

My mom asf except she also bullies tf outta me about my body and what I do and don’t do. I’m 21 and they followed my ass to college so i can’t even “escape” by going to college. They don’t let me go out and I have a curfew of BEFORE sun sets and I can’t go to any school events or stay in campus after my classes to study. I literally have to make a fake class schedule so that she doesn’t make me come home in between classes or early. and they don’t let me work (unless it’s an internship). Awesome

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Anonymous 16w

My mother is also like this. I went to college and moved away and became independent having my own everything. I set boundaries with her so I can talk to her about simple things, but if she reacts a toxic way I set a firm boundary. When she crosses those boundaries and you tell her that’s not okay. To hell how she reacts!!

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Anonymous 16w

EXACTLY MY MOM TOOOO LIKE WORD BY WORD

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Anonymous 16w

If y'all don't move your damn money to a secure account and get all your important stuff in your name. I promise your parents will get over it. Mine did. Super controlling made em come home would crash out if I didn't cam them regularly. I just always was dependent so now they take what they can get bc they don't have anymore control over me. 100% the move. They will get over it and still love you and if they don't they don't deserve your company.

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Anonymous 16w

If you don’t go pull all your money out and keep it in a safe. Don’t let her hold that over you.

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Anonymous 16w

Literally my mom

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Anonymous 16w

Where do yall get these villain moms bro. I forgot to talk to my parents for a week as I was busy with school and friends. And when I did talk to them they were nothing but happy to hear that I’m having fun 😭

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Anonymous 16w

I fear that’s real actually 😭 or it used to be anyway

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Anonymous 16w

Do we have the same mom?

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Anonymous 16w

My mom once threatened to call the cops for a wellness check on me cus I didn’t answer her, but here’s the kicker, not to make sure I was ok, specifically to embarrass me in front of my roommate. She assumed I was ok she just wanted to embarrass me.

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Anonymous 16w

as someone who hasn't had contact with their maternal parent in almost a decade, i see you. you will make it thru with or without her

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Anonymous 16w

Move the money into a separate account to at least protect that

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Anonymous 16w

My mom is the same way!!!

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Anonymous 16w

i feel you OP. my mom cut me off and threatened to stop paying for college bc she found out i made a dietary choice that apparently goes against the values she tried to raise me with (i’m vegetarian and eat eggs, which she thinks are not vegetarian bc you can’t know for sure if they’re fertilised or not). my dad still sent me money but mom hasn’t spoken to me in over two months. she texted to wish me on my birthday but even that ended with a “i’m sorry i couldn’t raise you to be a kind person”

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Anonymous 16w

my dad makes me come home every weekend or he’s gonna freeze my bank account. all the money in there is my own money i made…

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Anonymous 16w

TUPPPPPSSSS AS SHR SHOULDDDS

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Anonymous 16w

Get your own account and transfer the money out

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Anonymous 16w

She’s so cunt

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Anonymous 16w

My heart goes out to all the people in the comments sharing their stories. Made me especially grateful for my relationship with my parents. I hope you all find the peace and love that your mothers were supposed to bring in other avenues of your life

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Anonymous 16w

Bro me my parents have me pay them 1k every month say if I do something wrong they’ll take my money. They did that to my sister and she was in a foreign country

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Anonymous 16w

Valid tbh

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Anonymous 16w

If ur parents still paying for your phone and giving you a bank account I don’t want to hear it😭. Insane first world problem to have.

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Anonymous 16w

“Oh no my mom wants me to call her😔”

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 16w

i feel you. im 21 and ready to cut ties with her already. i have my own bank account that she doesn’t know about with saved money on it and i can easy get a new phone. she’s an abusive asshole who thrives on control, which it sounds like yours does too

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 16w

Yep, I’m 18 and I used almost all my money to buy a house with my sister and my parents helped a bit with financing but now she thinks that I owe her the world and it’s HER hour even though my name is on the title hun and she told me today that since I didn’t call her she wasn’t going to tell me about a 3k check that came in my name and she needs me to sign it but she’s going to use it for herself. Like bro I just can’t with her anymore

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 16w

unh uh you need to take her to court if she does that

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 16w

what the fuck…

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 16w

Withdraw all your money from that shared account and put it in the secret one. It’s your money. Ideally get the new phone asap too, with a new number

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 16w

have you started slowly putting your money into that account?

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 16w

you're an adult. what chan she do if you tell her no? you just have to be financially independent

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Anonymous replying to -> #13 16w

can*

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Anonymous replying to -> #15 16w

Me*^ call*^ Independent*^ sorry my autocorrect is on something today

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 16w

Venmo from the joint one to yours

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Anonymous replying to -> #10 16w

You could go to the bank and remove him from your account!!!! That way he won’t have any permission to change the account

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Anonymous replying to -> kroger 16w

That’s actually perfect because Venmo isn’t insured by the bank so any money that goes there won’t be covered if your parent tries to take it back

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Anonymous replying to -> #13 16w

Unfortunately i am scared of my mother. I’m just waiting to graduate and leave completely with a job

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Anonymous replying to -> #13 16w

this is the most uninformed take and I hate it when people say this shit to people with abusive parents. “Just become financially independent” ok so that requires getting a good enough job, getting the info for stuff like if they pay your car insurance (poking the bear with even asking to get that info btw), getting OFF their health/dental/vision insurance plan which is better than anything someone younger could get, getting a new phone plan, and finding a new place to live IN THIS ECONOMY

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Anonymous replying to -> #16 16w

I’m sorry

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Anonymous replying to -> mother_russia 16w

I agree with this. They can still send you money just not take ur money

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Anonymous replying to -> #27 16w

Such a blessing. Praying u have this forever and ever ☺️

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Anonymous replying to -> #27 16w

I wish dude 🥲

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 16w

I lost definitely will. My parents get mad when I tell them that I’m not being social as they want me to get out there and experience college and life. I feel so bad that not everyone’s parents are like that cause what do you mean you don’t have two cheerleaders rooting for you no matter what. I am def blessed 🙏

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 16w

It’s only good till you realize how long it’s been till you talked to them and then you feel so bad

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Anonymous replying to -> #27 16w

I wish I could feel bad. Like I genuinely with my mom wasn’t awful and didnt abuse me. It’s a blessing. I’m glad you get loving parents though! I don’t wish my narcissistic mother on anyone

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 16w

I wish everyone had loving parents. I’m so sorry for what you’re dealing with. I would never wish a narcissistic parent on anyone :(

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Anonymous replying to -> #29 16w

they aren’t 🤯

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Anonymous replying to -> #29 16w

Your mom clearly didn’t love you

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Anonymous replying to -> #29 16w

don’t comment shit like that when you don’t have any context

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Anonymous replying to -> #29 16w

Fr lmao like if ur not independent ur not independent

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Anonymous replying to -> #29 16w

😂😂😂

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Anonymous replying to -> #17 16w

Not being independent financially doesn’t mean family can demand what ever they want all of the time. Freedom and personal choice applies even if you aren’t fully supporting yourself and money shouldn’t be used as a way to control others into doing what you want.

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Anonymous replying to -> #29 16w

I also don’t think you understand what it means when she says she will take the money out of the account, because I have my own bank account with my own money but my parents co-signed for it because I started the account when I was 14 (working age) so the money is mine but they still have access to the account even though I’m the primary owner. You have to go in and fill out paperwork if you want to remove someone from being legally able to access your bank account, like a spouse or parent

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Anonymous replying to -> #29 16w

It’s not like a parent made an account just to fill it with money for their adult kid. It’s that they still have secondary access to the account because most people only change banks when they settle down in a new city and not in college when they will move again soon.

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Anonymous replying to -> #29 16w

Sometimes there is valid reason to not talk to family: like you are busy or they are a horrible person. Threatening theft to try to force interaction is NOT how to get your child to want to interact with you.

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Anonymous replying to -> #33 16w

Why don’t you cut contact? If it’s literally costing you a thousand every month to be controlled by your parents

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Anonymous replying to -> mother_russia 16w

They refuse to put the car under my name even though I pay for it. I cant move out unless I make my room as though no one lived in it. Meaning I have to pay to get the walls painted, new flooring, etc all done professionally cause they said so. I wish people actually understood how hard it is to find a away out

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Anonymous replying to -> #33 16w

No I totally understand it’s difficult, I didn’t realize you still lived with them too.

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Anonymous replying to -> #33 16w

Maybe look at your local government’s bid cite for decommissioned cars or talk to your bank about getting a car loan. If you are paying your family 1k a month that would probably be considered rent so you would be considered a tenant. You could look up local laws on that and see if there are any things that could protect you and so they can’t force you out immediately and need a formal eviction and give a certain amount of time to find a new place

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Anonymous replying to -> #33 16w

General wear and tear isn’t something they could charge you for if you are a tenant and it’s something they would have to do themselves. Are they claiming you as a dependent?

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Anonymous replying to -> mother_russia 16w

Dependent on their insurance yea. But they say the 1k I pay them isn’t even rent it’s utilities. I also pay for groceries every other month. My sister only now started having to pay at 27 when I have to start at 22. My sister says it’s fair bc when she was my age she was in Korea for a year. But when she got back she didn’t even have to pay till 27. I’ve said it’s unfair and no one cares

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Anonymous replying to -> #33 16w

Utilities are a part of rent so you are definitely a tenant. Utilities for one additional person is like 15 bucks depending on where you are. The highest I’ve ever seen for a single person in their own apartment has been $100. $1000 would be high for rent AND utilities combined in many places.

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Anonymous replying to -> #33 16w

I’m sorry that your family is treating you like that when you sister is treated so differently

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Anonymous replying to -> mother_russia 16w

Rip it’s ok ig ty tho

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 16w

Then remove their access from your account and stop whining.

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Anonymous replying to -> #29 16w

damn how can someone like you have zero empathy whatsoever

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