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Confessions 17h
not every black girl has a hard time dating if anything i get too much male attention. stop acting like it’s all of us bc YOURE unconvientally unattractive
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Anonymous 17h

real. i’ve never had trouble pulling whichever man i wanted lmao

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Anonymous 17h

receiving unwanted male attention isn’t the opposite of “having a hard time dating”. I used to be fat in a way that made me conventionally unattractive and I still received too much male attention—that was Part Of my difficulty in dating: men didn’t respect me, they just saw me as an easy target

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 17h

literally and bw are always on the boston sidechat claiming how insecure and “undesirable” they are like stfuuuuu and get a diary bro that’s a YOU problem

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 17h

oh hell nah. that shit is so pathetic to me like ur literally embarrassing us all. and don’t get me started when i black girls commenting on ppl’s post saying “do u like blk girls?? 🥺” STAND TF UP

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 17h

bro the way i could talk about this for hours😭😭😭😭😭😩

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 17h

it kinda is tho bc lots of time they wanna pursue me, be real women who aren’t conventionally attractive aren’t getting approached consistently

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 17h

well that’s diff ngl😭😭😭

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 17h

i see what ur saying but u kinda strayed off ooint

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 17h

I was getting pursued and approached consistently though?

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 17h

I didn’t, every word of what I said was part of the same point. all kinds of different women are subjected to male entitlement, that’s not the same as being loved

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 16h

right but the aforementioned post was abt black girls complaining abt how every black woman is undesirable when that’s literally a generalization and not every black girl has that issue

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 16h

OP acknowledged herself in her post that conventional attractiveness was part of what the other woman in question was complaining about. the conventional beauty standard in the US objectively does favor whiteness, that’s not just a generalization and it definitely doesn’t mean she thinks all black women are ugly or something

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 16h

every black woman experiences racism in some form. oftentimes part of how this manifests is that even an otherwise conventionally beautiful black woman is not valued to the same extent as a conventionally beautiful white woman. it's just difficult to express that fact in a way that gets reliably interpreted correctly because English doesn't afford us a lot of vocabulary for clearly distinguishing between "being good-looking" vs "meeting the conventional beauty standard" [reposted to fix a typo]

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 16h

i uny

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 16h

understand

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