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if dating isn't working for you, the problem is you. take better care of your looks. hit the gym. learn how to cook. be good in bed. for women, I have no advice you're perfect the way you are 💋

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Anonymous 22h

I do all of these and more

Anonymous 14h

Dating isn’t working because the men lack intention and effort. I could easily be in a relationship but I’m not willing to settle for a mediocre man who has nothing to offer besides what’s between his legs. Please I have one of those and it’s neon pink with 15 settings. Consistent, reliable, and I still can have my peace. I am open to dating but my standards and expectations are nonnegotiable.

Anonymous 16h

For women: contribute more to a relationship than your body. A relationship thrives on different roles supporting in different ways yet still an equal level of effort. As a man who has been the person paying all the bills, cooking, cleaning, getting groceries and other domestic tasks like laundry while my girlfriend at the time was unemployed and not job searching it completely changed the way I looked at her

Anonymous 17h

W cope ig

Anonymous 20h

ILY

Anonymous 19h

What if you just can’t become attached to people

Anonymous 15h

*Deletes paragraph….lmaooo was about to go off on you before finishing the post

Anonymous 15h

thank you bookie

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Anonymous 12h

But I already do all these things.. and I’m really nice to everyone and give gifts so..

Anonymous 11h

So women have nothing to fix, like not one issue? No accountability 😂😂

Anonymous 7h

men ain’t gotta “hit the gym” to be desirable

Anonymous 5h

This is true and after doing all this, your standards will get higher and you will want someone who also has those qualities. You will then feel shallow for not liking so many women :/

Anonymous

#1 21h

Good 👏🏼✨

Anonymous

#3 19h

I’d love to have this problem

Anonymous

#4 18h

It feels like shit I promise you don’t I just lose all sense of need for a person after like a month and it’s happened like 8 times now it makes you think that your bound to be alone

Anonymous

#3 18h

Then you're an avoidant

Anonymous

#5 17h

Or you're so good at avoiding attachment that you’ve convinced yourself you’re incapable of it

Anonymous

#2 17h

ily too ✨

Anonymous

#7 16h

Moral of the story: take care of yourself, take care of your person

Anonymous

#7 13h

tbh that just means you dated a bum ngl 😭nobody likes a bum

Anonymous

#11 8h

I like a bum 🥹

Anonymous

#15 7h

imo yes absolutely they should but everyone likes something different

Anonymous

#16 5h

“everyone likes something different” = they don’t have to hit the gym to be desired. redundant reply

Anonymous

#17 5h

nah. that’s not “your standards getting higher”, that’s you internalizing a worldview that dehumanizes the very person you were not too long ago. choosing to perpetuate the problem once things got easier on you, rather than hanging on to what you should have learned from the position you were in before

Anonymous

#7 3h

your enduring beef with one ex (hopefully you aren’t ranting like this about someone you’re choosing to still be with!!) in particular isn’t something that needs to be converted into generalized advice for all women lmao you know what it’s called when you take your frustration towards one woman and project it bitterly onto women In General? misogyny.

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