To clarify, I mean parents who can afford to help. I don’t think helping your adult kids if you’re able creates dependence by default. Sometimes it just gives them a stronger foundation to become independent.

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A mindset from a bygone era really. Before WWII you would see like multigenerational households all the time until like the kids got married or whatever. People older than the boomers are really fucking old by now so it’s like now the old people don’t even remember what things were like before the postWWII boom and stuff

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HUGE agree!!! My parents help me by treating it like a real life roommate situation. We started with super cheap low rent and slowly raised it. Then raised the expectations for house care. I genuinely am beyond greatful for my mother willing to teach me these things in a safe environment.

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My parents have been shit about a lot of things, but never this. They have been so good to me with allowing independence but still supporting me. I have a full time job now and I’m actively moving out, but my mom said she would have let me stay here for years for free without a job if I was trying my hardest to get one every day.

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Big agree

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I mean my family is white and they still believe this I think some people are just shit parents and look at parenting as a job they’ll eventually get to clock out of rather than a responsibility they’ll have the rest of their lives

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I think financial support when possible makes sense, but there are definitely smaller things that can promote independence while a kid stays at home. I was against learning to drive until it clicked in my head how far 6 miles really is when the only route is car centric. Then I learned to drive and so much more opened up to me.

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