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Does anyone else get afraid or anxious when they think about the idea of getting in a relationship or having sex with someone. Like I’ve done both before but it was years ago and now I feel like it’s too foreign of a concept for me to even try to get
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Anonymous 6d

If it’s any consolation I have never read anything that resonates with my own experience so much. Holy cow. Yeah, I find myself completely frozen up thinking of trying to have sex and I definitely get attracted to women but am afraid to start the ball rolling on any kind of dating because what if it’s too scary and then I don’t want to let anybody down or drag them along. Happy to chat more if it would be helpful but otherwise enjoy your edible

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Anonymous 1w

I’m going on an actual date tomorrow which I’ve never even done before, I’m genuinely terrified of it because it just feels like I’m someone who wasn’t meant to date or be intimate with someone else and it feels like I’m doing something wrong by trying to get that sort of thing started in my life

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

I don’t mean that in a “oh I’m so ugly nobody will ever love me” sort of way I mean it like. Idk I’m just not someone who was meant to have anything but friends and family. I’m very jealous of my friends who allow themselves to be romantic and sexual, I feel like I can’t allow that for myself

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

Sorry I’m just yapping on here my edible is kicking in and I’m getting all introspective and shit

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 6d

Also completely understand the feeling of jealousy over friends allowing themselves to be romantic and sexual- like that phrasing is exactly how I’ve felt about it too. Really very affirming in a weird way that I’m not the only one that feels this way

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 6d

At least we’re not alone 🤷 it’s so weird because I really do want to meet and date people, have some physical intimacy etc, but whenever I get opportunities to actually try to achieve that I just give up before even trying. It feels like if a fish wanted to walk on land and knew it just wasn’t worth trying

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 6d

When I turned 18 I was feeling kinda lonely (small town as a teen type of lonely) so I tried to get on dating apps, I remember matching with a handful of people that were pretty cute. One guy was exactly my type and I only briefly talked to him before chickening out and letting the convo die, this one girl was so beautiful I was surprised she was even talking to me and I couldn’t do that either

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 6d

I wish you the best today- hope it can feel like a low-stakes making a friend kind of thing. And clearly there are other people who feel this way too. I’m starting therapy literally today haha so hopefully that will help too

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